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Should We All Quit Smoking Because Our Friends Wife Gets Mad When He Comes Home Smelling Like Smoke?

So we've been hosting poker @ our house every Friday for the past 15 years. The players have changed but some stayed the same and we've always enjoyed each others company. Recently, one of our friends came over and every time we try to have a cigarette he says that his wife is going to divorce him if he comes home smelling like smoke and he steps outside. This is really strange to have to deal with because he's been around us from the beginning of time, why is it a problem now? I don't know what to do but I believe he needs to make a decision. Either he comes over and gets yelled at by his wife or he just stays home or goes to someone elses house to hang out, it isn't my fault that he chooses to come over here. I lit an incense to try to drown out the smell of the cigarettes but I don't think it really helps at all. It's really uncomfortable having him come over now because whenever one of us lights up he gets up and goes outside and it makes us feel bad, but we have an addiction and he's known this our whole friendship.

Quit Smoking To Make The Friend Happy

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RegieEstioco wrote on January 10, 2015, 7:39 PM

I smoke during my college days but I already stopped after graduating. I now hate the smell. I personally believe that cigarette smoking is not good to health.

Renda wrote on January 10, 2015, 8:23 PM

I am a former smoker and know how difficult it can be to quit. You should quit smoking because of the health risks, not because someone is mad at you for the smell. In my honest opinion, it sounds like he needs to fix the issue(s) with his wife. There may be more going on than what's being told.

DWDavisRSL wrote on January 10, 2015, 8:38 PM

Like Renda above, I am a former smoker and know how hard it is to quit, or not to light up during activities when your used to lighting up. And you won't be able to quit just because you want a friend to stop getting yelled at by his wife. If she's going to divorce him over that, she's just looking for an excuse to get gone. Quit smoking because you'll live longer, you'll save money, and your clothes, hair, house, and car won't stink.

LoneRanger wrote on January 10, 2015, 8:49 PM

I wish I could anything here as I do not smoke - so there is no question of quitting. But sometimes smoking is really annoying and a smoker should be wise enough to know when it annoys people around.

iRun wrote on January 10, 2015, 10:09 PM

I'm wondering what has changed here. Has he been married the whole time? Did his wife just recently decide to be rotten to him about this and prior to her 'change of heart', she didn't care?

Soonerdad3 wrote on January 10, 2015, 10:49 PM

why should the smoker have to change just to make someone else happy? I say if you don't like it you can go somewhere else.

Soonerdad3 wrote on January 10, 2015, 10:51 PM

I agree, he needs to make a decision and live with his choice, you should not have to quit to make anyone but yourself happy.

Vickiw wrote on January 10, 2015, 11:34 PM

I guess he should make the decision as to what he does. It's your home, so you shouldn't have to stop for that reason. But I'm sure you know the health risks associated with it, so maybe one day you'll decide to quit for that reason, or because your money is going up in smoke!

ElfenLied21 wrote on January 10, 2015, 11:41 PM

Is the wife trying to use it as an excuse for him not to hang out with you all anymore? That is what it sounds like to me.

Kat- wrote on January 11, 2015, 8:03 AM

No, don't quit to make your friend happy. Obliviously something has changed in his life where his wife is giving him this ultimatum. Sounds like she's telling him not to go over to your house to hang out anymore, it's not the smoking, she's just using that as an excuse. As a former smoker, I know how hard it is to quit, you have to quit because you want to do it for yourself, no one else or you will fail. If you don't really want to quit, you won't be able to.

karen5416 wrote on January 11, 2015, 9:49 AM

I would pack in smoking for your own good, I have been packed in smoking for over 20 years, it is hard but worth it. As for him tell him to buy some febreeze for on his way home

stacygirl77 wrote on January 11, 2015, 1:26 PM

His wife will have to just deal with it. Maybe he could bring a change of clothes with him.

PegCole17 wrote on January 15, 2015, 8:33 AM

There are a lot of good reasons to quit smoking but this one sounds like manipulation and control on the wife's part. Perhaps he can bring her along to reassure her that he is indeed going out with friends to play cards and not hanging around in a bar or some other place of which she would disapprove. The other option is to invest in a spray bottle of Febreze to reduce the offensive smell on his clothes. For me, I have a very sensitive nose and since I've quit smoking, about ten years now, I can detect others who have smoked from about five feet away. The most important consideration besides the money gone up in smoke is the health advantages of not smoking. Both the husband and I are delighted that we quit.

LeaPea2417 wrote on December 20, 2015, 6:42 PM

People should quit smoking for their own good. They need to realize it is bad for the lungs and can shorten one's life ten to twenty years.