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Children are a blessing do not blame them

Children are a blessing. There is a saying in my native language that says, children are born when their fists are folded but they unfold those fists with blessings. It's always the dream of most women if not all, to have a child but it saddens me that most women especially in my country always blame their kids when things do not work out with their children's fathers.

I accidentally met a woman in a hair salon months back, she had a baby girl on her back and she looked malnourished. The baby was crying a lot, she had a cold and the owner of the salon was so harsh she even shouted at the woman and told her to tell the poor baby to shut up!I felt sad, I told her to give me the child, I held the sweet little girl and felt great. She kept quite and started smiling. Little Wendy was only 6 months old and her mum had to go around the City centre to look for casual jobs to earn some coins for food.

When I was about to leave, I asked Wendy's mum for her phone number but she told me she had no phone. I scribbled my number on a piece of paper and gave her, I also gave her a few coins for lunch and left. I felt I needed to know more about her situation but the place wasn't right as her boss was unfriendly. All I could do was go back home and wait for her call or message. A week later she called me, I arranged a meeting with her and she narrated to me how how her husband had abandoned her with her 4 children, and she pointed that Wendy was the cause. She explained that her husband got angry when she got pregnant for Wendy, he wanted her to terminate the pregnancy as he could not afford to feed another mouth! When this did not bear fruit, he packed and left and he has never come back! Wendy's mum has lived with so much anger towards Wendy, she at some point wanted to throw her in a river, she has even thought of poisoning her but something has always held her back!

Well, Wendy is celebrating her first birthday today, and am glad I met her. I took it upon myself to help Wendy's family whenever I can, I encourage her mother to soldier on, my husband, my friend Eva and I send them money every month for their upkeep. Wendy's mum set up a small business and it also helping in offsetting some of the bills. I feel great I met Wendy and her mum, they are my blessing.

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paperdaisyflower7 wrote on July 23, 2014, 6:40 AM

You are a great person. You are right it is not the child's fault and I think it is the parents because they could not talk it over properly and calmly. poor Wendy.

MsTina wrote on July 23, 2014, 7:24 AM

You are a blessing to that sweet little girl. It's sad that her mom projected the blame for her husband leaving onto her baby. Hopefully she is able to give her the love she deserves now that you are helping because really, it is the baby fault that she is getting help from you and your family.

MegL wrote on July 23, 2014, 7:48 AM

This is called "paying it forward". That is a phrase from a film of the same name, where a boy was asked by his teacher to find a way of making the world a happier place. Pay it forward was the way and this is what you are doing. You are receiving blessings just in knowing that you are helping the child and I believe that you will receive even greater blessings from this.

cyndycy wrote on July 23, 2014, 9:16 AM

Thanks paperdaisyflower7 am honoured to be part of little Wendy's life I hope one day her dad will realize he made a huge mistake

cyndycy wrote on July 23, 2014, 9:17 AM

Very true, thank you. I check on them from time to time and Wendy's mum has really changed her attitude towards Wendy.I hope a day will come when Wendy will be a great lady in our society

cyndycy wrote on July 23, 2014, 9:19 AM

Thanks a lot MegL . I just want to see Wendy and her siblings grow well and happy.I hope one day their father will realize what a huge ,mistake he made

MsTina wrote on July 23, 2014, 9:37 AM

I wouldn't count on the dad's feelings changing. He seems like the kind of guy who might come back only if he thinks he can benefit from the family's newly found prosperity.

gidget wrote on July 23, 2014, 10:10 AM

If everyone down on their luck had someone like you, this world would be such a better place.

paigea wrote on July 23, 2014, 11:19 AM

Lucky Wendy and her mom met you. And how wonderful that they are flourishing with a little help.

DoubleDabrew wrote on July 23, 2014, 11:58 AM

That is impressive grl.I remember reading about your meeting with her. God bless your soul.

kdarrell wrote on July 23, 2014, 12:40 PM

You are an amazing person! I hope Wendy's mom appreciates you and all you do.

acelawrites wrote on July 24, 2014, 12:20 AM

You are an angel to Wendy! Very nice attitude of helping others help themselves. I thought of the woman with five children who was also abandoned by her husband for another woman, and I am trying to help her also in whatever way I can. I just wish wealthy people could help those people needing help.

cyndycy wrote on July 24, 2014, 12:55 AM

Thanks gidget . I feel happy when I see Wendy and her family happy

cyndycy wrote on July 24, 2014, 12:56 AM

Thanks paigea am happy I bumped into them that time I wonder if Wendy would still be alive

cyndycy wrote on July 24, 2014, 12:58 AM

Thanks friend, God bless you too I hope Wendy will grow to be a wonderful person in our society

cyndycy wrote on July 24, 2014, 12:59 AM

Thank you, Wendy's mum appreciates a lot, she even calls me whenever she achieves something and we celebrate together.I'm glad she is hopeful again

cyndycy wrote on July 24, 2014, 1:02 AM

Thanks acelawrites am happy you are also helping that family, May God bless you. It's sad to see families suffer especially the children. Too bad most wealthy people never get to help those in need.

bestwriter wrote on July 24, 2014, 6:07 AM

You got an opportunity to help someone and you must now be a happy person. Hope with your intervention things will improve for Wendy and her mother.

simone425 wrote on July 24, 2014, 6:29 AM

You are such a wonderful and caring person to help this family! I think it is wonderful!

LeslieAdrienne wrote on July 28, 2014, 12:24 PM

God sent you to that family. We never know the future of a child. Wendy's destiny may be great in God and that could be the reason for her emotional abandonment from her mother and father. I expect that she will do wonderful things in the kingdom of God.

Alicia812 wrote on November 9, 2014, 6:17 PM

It is always good to feel that you have been given the opportunity to help others. Kudos to you! You have a big heart. I will do the same if I were at your position that time. It always feels good to help. I hope that Wendy and her family will have a bright future despite all the struggles they are into right now.

keishafaye100 wrote on November 26, 2014, 8:19 PM

it saddens me , and breaks my heart when i watch mothers, and other mistreat children. i always dreamed of having children someday. Children are a blessing, so cherish them.

Colibry21 wrote on January 1, 2015, 12:31 PM

You are an incredible person for helping Wendy's mom. I'm that Wendy's mom kept her, and didn't end this girl's life. I hope everything gets better for Wendy and her family.

grandma20121 wrote on January 10, 2015, 10:16 PM

This is really nice of you to help out this woman and her children, I think a husband like this woman had is mo man at all, he should be ashamed of himself to ask his wife to terminate this pregnancy. This world needs more caring people like you and less people like this womans husband.