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Four years seems like four days

I am not sure if he will read this one day but I just thought of writing it here. We will be celebrating our fourth anniversary in October. It may not seem much to some people, but to me, it is. Our marriage has not been all rosy. We knew we loved each other the day we met. We dated for a while then we went for a civil marriage, my dad was unhappy I was 22, my hubby was 23 and he thought we were too young to get married, besides, he was uncomfortable with the tribe that my hubby comes from. In my country there are so many tribes and people are mostly judged according to their tribes. A couple of my friends also warned me, they believed I was doomed! They said, "Marriage is a school of hardship where those who enroll never graduate". I defied my dad and friends and married my man. We have had both the good and bad times. Our first year had so many challenges, I didn't have a source of income, my hubby's salary was little, my family had sidelined me completely and at some point I felt the wall was crumbling down on me. I missed home I missed having everything I wanted, gifts, vacations and all that, but I chose to be patient and stick with my hubby. We have been patient with each other, we promised to love each other till the end of time and to trust God and that is what has kept us strong. We even lost our first son a day after his birth, it was a huge blow to us but God gave us immense strength. Great news, we now have a one year old son.He has brought us so much joy and blessings. We are doing great, I know he has his weaknesses but I always choose to look at his strengths because that is what he does with me. We bring out the best in each other. I am happy I have him, am blessed and I pray that God will keep holding us together till the end of time. My friends and family now appreciate my marriage, and am glad they do!Four years to me seems like four days.

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cm_ang83 wrote on July 22, 2014, 5:26 AM

It's good to hear that from you my friend. I believe it is not an easy journey since you get marriage with him. Take care my friend.

gidget wrote on July 22, 2014, 9:43 AM

First of all, I am so sorry about your first son. I lost my eldest when he was 28 from a motorcycle accident. That was hard, but I always tried to think of the people who lost theirs in childhood, and used to tell myself that I should feel fortunate that I had him for his childhood.
Marriage is rough the first few years, I think you are on the right track.

midastouch wrote on July 22, 2014, 2:36 PM

23, 23
what a very young age to become hooked especially for the man
but if you have come this far - 4 years
then you have accommodated each other well and also adjusted
don't worry about your relatives, they will come around one day soon
especially when they see that you are in it for the long haul
happy anniversary in advance
be sure to invite me to the dinner

cyndycy wrote on July 23, 2014, 2:07 AM

Thanks friend

cyndycy wrote on July 23, 2014, 2:11 AM

Thanks gidget . Sorry for your loss too, it must have been so painful, I still look at my son's crib and his clothes and wish he had lived long enough but again I have a reason to smile and be grateful for. Am glad you have the strength to share about the loss, I admire the strength and grace.

Marriage is scary a times but am grateful I hope I will enjoy forever.

cyndycy wrote on July 23, 2014, 2:12 AM

ha ha ha that's a nice one. Thanks for the wishes I will for sure invite you lol

gidget wrote on July 23, 2014, 9:54 AM

Thanks, it was very painful, even after it was over, the police opened an investigation, stating they had believed there might have been foul play. That made the mourning process even more difficult.

LeslieAdrienne wrote on July 28, 2014, 12:32 PM

Wonderful story of courage, strength and faith.... May your marriage be blessed beyond your expectations!!! God Bless You!