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5 tips to improve self-confidence

The vast majority of people I know declared themselves to be more or less, timid. I myself too can be considered as one in some instances. This starts when we fear about how others see us or judge us and this usually results to just giving up and accepting failure. What’s alarming is that lack of confidence can be disastrous. It immobilizes us, leaves us speechless, and makes us incapable of exerting our true potentials. Today, I was able to read an article about this and reflected on it. Here’s what I have to share:

1. At the first signs of self-mistrust, ask yourself, "What is the worst thing that could happen?" More often than not, we put too much importance to the possible problems that may arise if we try something and failed. Why not use these thoughts to motivate us to achieve our goals, rather than spend all out time worrying and fearing about what might happen? Act without fear and let your eagerness to success guide your way to doing things effectively.

2. If you're scared because you're going to do something for the first time, easy! Try to imagine that you've done it in the past. Close your eyes, and then imagine yourself, and more realistically as possible. The mind does not really know the difference between something imagined in great detail to something real. It works like a charm for many in overcoming the fear of first time.

3. Make your mind travel to the future and from there; ask yourself if what you're up against something as important as you think now. This exercise can be a bit morbid, but it works perfectly. Imagine yourself on your deathbed, recounting what has been your life. You surround your family and friends. You are reviewing the most significant moments in your life. Do you really think that what you face now going to show in this review? That is highly unlikely. Seeing things in the proper perspective, we realize the importance they actually have.

4. Replace annoying and negative inner voice that hinders you to act on something. Imagine using remote control for your TV and putting the sound down to zero or pressing the mute button and produce a sound of your own when watching a film with annoying sound. This signifies that you can change the negativeness by dictating it using your mind. The trick to remove it is to alter the way it affects you. If the inner voice is urging you to stop, take it out of your mind and tell yourself otherwise.

5. Think "would be like if ..." This trick is really good. Given a specific situation, if you had confidence, How would you act? How would you move? How would you talk to someone? What can you think of? What things would you say to yourself? Asking these questions, these literally force you to imagine yourself in a state of trust and all you have to do is "act" according to the answers you give. Little by little you will forget you're acting, and will become an automatic habit.
Good luck and keep that chin up with confidence.

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cyndycy wrote on July 22, 2014, 3:46 AM

These are really great tips I'm going to share them with my sister, she has always had self esteem and confidence issues, am glad I read this.

randomrants wrote on July 22, 2014, 3:53 AM

Thanks cyndycy for dropping by. Hope it helps your sister too. :D

MegL wrote on July 22, 2014, 4:02 AM

And if you need help from someone, ask yourself "who would be the best person to help me with this?" (Even a dead person) It might be a parent, a friend, Einstein, your religious leader, a celebrity, whoever. Now ask yourself, "How would .... your chosen person... deal with this?" Say, it's a cooking problem, then perhaps your mother would deal with it in a special way and you can imagine her telling you what to do.