*She Did Not Understand*
So this morning I told my client that I will not be able to watch children full time as of August 1st because I need to focus on my own children and teaching them. So, she says to me well Skyler (her 4 year old) would be happy to do school work with your children! She also has an 11 month old daughter that I have to take care of-it will be too hard to get my children where they need to be while having a baby around.
Now I am left thinking...what can I do for her to get the hint that it is not happening? I do not want to be mean or anything-but why is she not getting the hint? Why would she say her daughter can join in on learning when I am NOT home schooling her daughter?
I have to think of something to tell her without her hating me...
TheTalker wrote on June 13, 2014, 10:15 AM
I guess you could tell her that would be an extra couple hundred a month for the educational instruction. LOL
At this point I would just do what you need for your family. It sounds like she isn't considering your needs for them.
LovingMyBabies wrote on June 13, 2014, 10:20 AM
Yeah all she cares about is herself and her children and her needs. Which is unfair to me. =( I wish she would just get the hint!
LovingMyBabies wrote on June 13, 2014, 10:44 AM
Michelle Duggar also has money out the ying yang and can afford a different program than what I am using... They are all also her own children-that's the difference. I chose to home school my own children-not anyone else's and I want to keep it that way.
adjkp25 wrote on June 13, 2014, 10:48 AM
Would she understand if you tell her that you are taking a step back to concentrate 100% on your own family and you won't have time to supervise any other children? I think I know the answer to that question already so you might just have to tell her it isn't going to happen and hope that she is OK with it.
LovingMyBabies wrote on June 13, 2014, 11:23 AM
I think I am just going to be blunt with her and tell her like it is. Right now she thinks she has an option-this isn't a choice, it is the way it is. I think I need to make that very clear to her.
LovingMyBabies wrote on June 13, 2014, 11:24 AM
The problem is she thought she has a choice. It was not a choice-it is the way it is and I think your right, I am just going to have to make that clear to her.
shaloowalia wrote on June 13, 2014, 11:42 AM
you have to be a little tactful and put your point across firmly without offending her.
momathome wrote on June 13, 2014, 11:49 AM
I would try doing a written notice and post it on a common area and also provide it to every parent you sit for so that way she isn't feeling singled out. With it being in writing, she would probably take it more seriously.
RussTeed wrote on June 13, 2014, 1:38 PM
Sounds like the world revolves around her. Maybe say you are going to concentrate your new business(s)?
AinsleyJo1952 wrote on June 13, 2014, 2:22 PM
Just state your needs politely but VERY clearly. Tell her that you need to focus on homeschooling your daughter; that the only kids you want to homeschool at this time are your own. Therefore, you are cutting way down on your childcare hours.
rusty2rusty wrote on June 13, 2014, 6:19 PM
Seems she must really like you as a sitter and does not want to have to look for another one. A good sitter si hard to find. I suggest writing a letter up and handing it out to all you babysit for. Have the letter explaining everything again and by time you need or want it done. That way they can go back and look at and realize they had plenty of time to look for alternatives. This way you don't have to feel guilty either. As everything will be covered.
LoudMan wrote on June 13, 2014, 11:01 PM
I remember juggling kids
loriej wrote on June 14, 2014, 8:28 AM
You may just have to come right out and tell her that your children need your attention more now and she needs to find new daycare :( Some people just will never get a hint!