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Thanksgiving Eve: Thankful for many other things than just the holiday hoopla

Holidays have changed for me over the years. I am convinced that may be the case for many of us, though some would dare not say so. Some have shared with me that "the joy of holidays has disappeared."

We all have expectations of what holidays are meant to be. Television advertisements have certainly helped that along. So, when our lives are less than Hallmark-perfect, the feels of "less than" begin to eat away at what we do have.

Tomorrow I will not host a Thanksgiving dinner. There will be no holiday hoopla. I have not received any invitations to join any one else in a celebration of the holiday, or to help them in hosting such an event. Life has changed drastically for family members and friends that they are learning to deal with their own expectations of what holidays and life truly mean.

Admittedly, I can allow myself to go into the mindset of melancholy, hurt and pain. I can go into feelings of being discarded and feeling depressed. After all, there is not a moment where I am not surrounded with visions of sugarplums and Santa and Norman Rockwell-inspired visions of family gatherings. (Oh, wait! We are still in Thanksgiving, right?)

I will likely find a place to have a meal with RGD. We may drop in to see a friend's daughter in the hospital who is on bedrest in a hospital, after going into labor yesterday at 24 weeks. She will be there until they can no longer prevent the baby from coming into this world.

Every day can be a day of thanksgiving, whether or not it is filled with turkey and stuffing, and pumpkin pie while watching football games with people who you see once a year. (I am not saying there is not something to be said about this nostalgia.)

However, each day we wake up, there is an opportunity to be thankful for whatever we do have . This year, though there will not likely be turkey and gravy for me, I am thankful for many things.

Here are just a few:

  • Life itself
  • The people who have stuck with me and encouraged me to keep going after my 2012 diagnosis
  • Living where I am safe
  • Dear friends and family members who continue to make it a point to let me know they love me by picking up a telephone or sending me something in the mail to surprise me
  • Opportunities presented to me when I trust in the process, others and myself
  • A new life born yesterday--my grand niece, Rosie, at 9 lbs. 6 oz.
  • Having enough

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For what things are you thankful for today, at this moment?

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wolfgirl569 wrote on November 25, 2015, 8:05 PM

First Congratulations on the new niece. Second you are invited here anytime if you ever make it to Ohio just remember to bring allergy medicine

luisga814 wrote on November 25, 2015, 8:25 PM

Wow, you have lots of reasons to celebrate for the Thanksgiving. Congratulations.

DWDavisRSL wrote on November 25, 2015, 8:29 PM

I am thankful for my friends, online and off. I am thankful for my family, and that Z is home for the holiday.

Congrats on the new member of the family.

CoralLevang wrote on November 25, 2015, 8:33 PM

Thank you, Eva, for your kind words. emoticon :smile:

CoralLevang wrote on November 25, 2015, 8:39 PM

Thank you, luisga814 . I have many reasons to celebrate each day. emoticon :smile: Blessings to you.

CoralLevang wrote on November 25, 2015, 8:40 PM

Thanks, DWDavisRSL . Have a wonderful time with your son. Happy Thanksgiving!

LeaPea2417 wrote on November 25, 2015, 11:58 PM

I am thankful for family and good food to eat and the home I live in.

Paulie wrote on November 26, 2015, 3:31 AM

Just like you CoralLevang , Thanksgiving has changed for me since I have lived in Thailand and my parents have passed away. I am also thankful for still being alive and passing my most recent ultrasound. Especially appreciated are my sisters, brother, son and other relatives who do care for me.

BarbRad wrote on November 26, 2015, 4:14 AM

I also congratulate you on your new niece. I like what you wrote very much. We won't be having the big turkey dinner tomorrow, either. To tell the truth, I'm not sure what we will eat, but I know we will eat. For that I'm thankful. I'm also thankful I still have my husband to share whatever meal we have. There are too many other things to list here. May your day be blessed tomorrow, and you, too.

CoralLevang wrote on November 26, 2015, 5:33 AM

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving, LeaPea2417 .

CoralLevang wrote on November 26, 2015, 5:34 AM

Paulie All of these things are wonderful. I, too, am thankful that you had a clear ultrasound. Much to be celebrated!

CoralLevang wrote on November 26, 2015, 5:36 AM

BarbRad Thank you so much.
And yes, having enough. To eat. Someone with whom to share the meal. All these things are so wonderful.

Rufuszen wrote on November 26, 2015, 6:20 AM

I don't worry to much about holidays, far too busy living!

Paulie wrote on November 26, 2015, 6:44 AM

Thank you very much for your thoughts, prayers, and concerns.

CoralLevang wrote on November 26, 2015, 7:19 AM

I like this comment. And it is fast becoming my mantra....or one of them!!

msiduri wrote on November 26, 2015, 11:36 AM

Best to you, CoralLevang . Glad for the new grandniece and hope the other little one can hold off until he or she is really ready to come into the world.

CoralLevang wrote on November 26, 2015, 12:46 PM

Thank you, msiduri . Life continues to go on.

LeaPea2417 wrote on November 26, 2015, 2:25 PM

Thank you, I hope yours is great too.

markgraham wrote on November 26, 2015, 6:44 PM

Congratulations on being a new aunt to a new niece and other than that you said a mouthful in this piece of writing.

CoralLevang wrote on November 27, 2015, 4:41 PM

Some might say that I always say a mouthful! emoticon :winking: Thank you, Mark.

MegL wrote on November 27, 2015, 5:45 PM

Congratulations on your new grand niece, Rosie. She is a good weight! Hope everything goes well for her and her parents.

CoralLevang wrote on November 27, 2015, 5:58 PM

Thanks! I can hardly wait to see her!