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Mother of the Bride: 10 Days and Counting

Ten days and counting...and then the bride and groom's big day will be here. Everything major has been decided, paid for and ready to go. The minor details continue to mount up, so much so that my daughter is sometimes overwrought with anxiety.

It's not unusual for tensions and anxiety to build before such an anticipated occasion, but in addition to the wedding and reception, my daughter works a full-time job, is taking classes and undergoing tests for what doctors think is a small stroke she may have had in the past. She truly has a lot of her plate.

Thankfully she has a close friend who is there for her daily with whom to share her concerns. The role I'm taking right now is to help my bride-to-be to form more realistic expectations of what the day and the people in it will be like. I'm dissuading her of the notion that all will be perfect, to expect instead that there will be some minor snafus along the way and the day will be very good, just not perfect.

Some of the details she had hoped would be in place for the wedding day haven't come to fruition and there isn't enough time to do anything about it. I remind her that these things really were mere details and won't detract from their ceremony or reception.

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AngelSharum wrote on October 6, 2015, 5:25 PM

I hope the day goes well for them. As long as the actual ceremony gets done and she is happy, that's the most important. I'm sorry to hear she had a stroke.

Feisty56 wrote on October 6, 2015, 5:35 PM

Thank you. : ) She has no outward symptoms of a stroke, but an MRI showed something that appeared to be an old, small stroke, thus the continued testing since she is only 30.

wolfgirl569 wrote on October 6, 2015, 6:23 PM

The imperfections that happen are what many times make it special. Wishing her and you lots of luck.

AngelSharum wrote on October 6, 2015, 6:29 PM

Yeah, it's a good idea to keep close check on things. I hope she doesn't have any more problems.

Feisty56 wrote on October 6, 2015, 6:33 PM

I imagine it was frightening to experience a mini-stroke at that young age in addition to be alone. My gosh! I'm relieved to hear you didn't have lasting effects from it.

Feisty56 wrote on October 6, 2015, 6:34 PM

That's a good insight, wolfgirl569 . I think too, that the small snafus will provide plenty of smiles and laughs in retrospect.

MegL wrote on October 6, 2015, 6:53 PM

Quite right. The important thing is to ENJOY it and help everyone else enjoy it. Not like my sister in law who spent the whole of her niece's wedding sulking because hair clips she had provided had not been put in the bride's hairdo! Every picture taken of her that day shows a scowl. Not good memories to have 10 years later, whereas photos of everyone else show happy smiling faces and enjoyment. And that was despite the wedding cake collapsing just after the photographs were taken!

lexiconlover wrote on October 6, 2015, 6:55 PM

It's getting so close now! I know that with that stress is coming a lot of excitement too.

markgraham wrote on October 6, 2015, 7:41 PM

Keep doing what you are doing. You will still be very important in your job.

6snowroses.6doves4peace wrote on October 6, 2015, 8:38 PM

Hello Feisty56. My congratulations to your daughter. I'm sure her day will be wonderful. Fingers crossed that the tests will not reveal anything serious. Congratulations on the coming of your new son-in-law.

cheri wrote on October 6, 2015, 9:23 PM

10 days then everything will be over. Just relax and enjoy everything.

Feisty56 wrote on October 6, 2015, 9:33 PM

The same thing happened to our local former Miss America -- a small stroke due to birth control pills. Ugh!

Feisty56 wrote on October 6, 2015, 9:36 PM

Unfortunately, one of the bridesmaids sulked and pouted throughout the bridal shower. I did take her aside and explain that her behavior was having a negative effect on the bride-to-be, but to no avail. I am hoping she will not act the same way at the reception. Her unhappiness is due to a conflict of personalities with one of the other bridesmaids. Ugh! They are adults, not school children.

Feisty56 wrote on October 6, 2015, 9:38 PM

Yes, the excitement is building. I get tearful (of joy) sometimes just thinking about how beautiful she will look that day and how handsome my new son-in-law will be. I'm taking plenty of tissues with me that day. : )

Feisty56 wrote on October 6, 2015, 9:39 PM

Yes, see my role as that of support as needed. This will be the bride and groom's day, with the rest of us there to celebrate them and their union.

Feisty56 wrote on October 6, 2015, 9:41 PM

Thank you so much. So far the test results have been negative, all good signs. My daughter and her fiance have been together 10 years before these nuptials, so I've considered him my son-in-law for quite some time. : )

Feisty56 wrote on October 6, 2015, 9:42 PM

Thank you, cheri . I have positive feelings about both the ceremony and reception. I think all will go well.

MegL wrote on October 7, 2015, 1:35 AM

Hmmm, does your daughter WANT this person as a bridesmaid?

Rufuszen wrote on October 7, 2015, 9:19 AM

I'm told it is not so much losing a daughter as gaining a baby sitting job!

Feisty56 wrote on October 7, 2015, 7:38 PM

Not really, not with the nonsense, but it's too late to change things now.

Feisty56 wrote on October 7, 2015, 7:40 PM

There's an old axiom that goes, " A daughter is a daughter all of her life; a son is a son until he takes a wife." For now, dog-sitting is what is in my immediate future. : )

Feisty56 wrote on October 7, 2015, 7:42 PM

Thank you, &VisionofHope . Thus far further testing has not indicated it was truly a stroke -- perhaps a small, benign cyst.

ViperGirl85 wrote on October 7, 2015, 11:21 PM

Awe, I really do hope it's a beautiful wedding day. It doesn't have to be perfect to be wonderful. :D

Feisty56 wrote on October 7, 2015, 11:51 PM

Thanks ViperGirl85 and I agree with you. Wonderful doesn't depend on perfection. : )

CoralLevang wrote on October 9, 2015, 2:24 PM

It's hard to believe that it's only a week away now. I can hardly wait to see pictures!


Feisty56 wrote on October 9, 2015, 10:02 PM

Thank you! I'm looking forward to sharing the photos, too. : )

alexdg1 wrote on October 13, 2015, 7:13 PM

Well, the three-day countdown is on. Here's a good luck wish to you all.

Feisty56 wrote on October 13, 2015, 7:44 PM

Thank you! The ceremony is going to be held outside and the weather for the day may be rainy and a high temp. of 45 degrees. If you hear any chattering late afternoon, it's likely to be our teeth. : )