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Divorce Court: Final Today?

I believe that today is the day that my daughter's divorce will be final. There is a hearing at 9 a.m. She will not be there, though her attorney and her "ex-" will be, as he is acting pro se.

Things did not go well for him a couple of weeks ago, when the judge gave her ruling. Of course, his attitude did not help him. I have not told much and will not do so, though I might share a little bit at a later date. Suffice it to say that there were contempt charges, sanctions, and scoldings that were well-deserved. Unfortunately, he sees them all as reason to open his mouth, and continue his crap.

He has stirred up evenmore crap in the last two and a half weeks, and he will continue to do so, given his patterns. My daughter is in for a tough few years ahead, but at least this first part will be done, and I hope she has realized that this is the beginning of her standing up and not being afraid to put a stop to his shenanigans.

Though some do will not agree, I am going to make the drive up there for the hearing to sit in back of the courtroom. After all the years that my intuition about him was spot-on (I will not say the obvious), having the satisfaction to hear the Court come down on him is worth it to me.

I just wish he would look at me. Just once. He has avoided making any eye contact with me the three days I was in the courtroom during the trial.

It would be poetic justice to watch him get snarky (again) with the Judge, and have her hold him in contempt (again), but this time, toss him in jail for a few days for doing so. (I can hope, right? I know, I know...)

Though the divorce was not final before her 40th birthday, which was yesterday (17th), knowing that she is moving beyond the challenges she has faced the past 20+ years, and (I hope) better-equipped to handle the next 20 years, is what I wish most for her.

Well, if I am going to catch the ferry to get me across the water and then drive north in time to make the 9 a.m. hearing, I better get up and going. I shall check in later on this evening.

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Rufuszen wrote on September 18, 2015, 8:07 AM

Sounds like your daughter will be well rid of him!

MegL wrote on September 18, 2015, 8:07 AM

All the best for today. And I hope your wishes come true! emoticon :grin:

CoralLevang wrote on September 18, 2015, 8:11 AM

Unfortunately, it will be some time before their youngest is of legal age. He is living w/father and has been poisoned against her and her family. He is as ugly to her as the father is. I pray for reconciliation with him (her son), but not sure it will happen in my lifetime. *sigh*
Had she played her cards differently a year ago when she left, it would be different. She claimed her ex was "a wonderful father." I think she has seen it through a different lens nowadays and will have a lot of damage control to try to effect.

CoralLevang wrote on September 18, 2015, 8:12 AM

MegL I should not be so ugly, but boy, would I have a great smile. Wouldn't be my revenge, but simply would restore my faith that there could be a God. LOL

wolfgirl569 wrote on September 18, 2015, 9:30 AM

I do hope this is the final. And we can always hope that he will get jail time if he acts up again.

markgraham wrote on September 18, 2015, 11:27 AM

You sound like my mom when my sister divorced her husband after 20 years years of marriage.

inertia4 wrote on September 18, 2015, 12:18 PM

This is horrible really. For a divorce case to last this long. That has to be hard on your daughter. And hopefully she will stay away from marriage rom now on. I did. I will never do that again. Being in an institution once is enough for me. I hope everything goes well for her and this is resolved real soon.

Feisty56 wrote on September 18, 2015, 1:25 PM

I think if I were in your shoes, I would make the trip to the courthouse today, too. So much has happened because of the poison this man has wrought over 20 years and will continue to do as long as he is able. I would take the opportunity to see perhaps a few of his wrongs righted through the justice system.

celticeagle wrote on September 18, 2015, 9:02 PM

That is a shame. I recall going through much the same 'stuff' back in the 90's. Now my daughter's ex has gone silent after sending a weird test one night really late saying we should get some legal help cause he was going to get my GS. He didn't even care to see his son until he was eight years old so I really doubt the judge would look on him favorably. I hope your daughter gets all that is coming to her.

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DWDavisRSL wrote on September 18, 2015, 9:17 PM

I hope the judge hands the ex his a$$ on a platter.

paigea wrote on September 18, 2015, 9:30 PM

I hope all went well at court. Sad he has to behave so poorly.

lexiconlover wrote on September 18, 2015, 10:42 PM

I wondered why I hadn't heard from you today. I hope everything goes well, or as well as it can. Your daughter may have some dark and hard day's ahead but it's also a new beginning.

Paulie wrote on September 19, 2015, 5:20 AM

I sincerely hope that things work out well for your daughter tomorrow.