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Mother of the Bride: 31 Days and Counting

Everyone involved in the planning and preparation for my daughter's upcoming nuptials is getting more tense, more jittery, more snappish as the day draws closer. My expectations were that this would occur, although I had hoped it might not happen until a bit closer to October 17.

The bridal shower is this Saturday, with more than 40 people expected to attend. Fortunately, the shower is being given by one of the bridesmaids, so the main responsibility for it doesn't rest on my shoulders. Those closest to the bride are being asked to bring cooked dishes to the event, so it sounds like it will be potluck.

Because I am one of those people who absolutely cannot deal with conflict, not even the essence of it, the shower and the wedding reception will find me on high alert. If I sense trouble brewing, I will make it my responsibility to nip that nonsense in the bud. I've laughingly offered to wear a referee uniform to the events, but my daughter knows me well enough to know I am only partially joking.

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markgraham wrote on September 15, 2015, 9:25 PM

Good luck and patience is what is needed at this time.

Feisty56 wrote on September 15, 2015, 10:06 PM

I shall be the patient one, although it won't always be easy. I want my daughter to look back at this time and recall that her mother was her rock through all of this. That is my hope.

BarbRad wrote on September 15, 2015, 11:12 PM

I hope and trust all will go smoothly and you won't have to referee anything. I hope it will just be a lovely memory to make together.

cheri wrote on September 15, 2015, 11:32 PM

This is going to be exciting as the countdown is getting closer. Hope everything will turn out perfectly well.

bestwriter wrote on September 16, 2015, 12:21 AM

I have been hearing about this since months now. You must have already lived that wedding scene million times over emoticon :tongue:

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Paulie wrote on September 16, 2015, 1:08 AM

Good luck with the upcoming wedding. I can really imagine how busy and excited you must be.

Rufuszen wrote on September 16, 2015, 4:58 AM

Sounds like you won't be resting easy until 18 Oct!

Colibry21 wrote on September 16, 2015, 8:42 AM

Good luck. Hopefully it all goes well. Try to enjoy it.

msiduri wrote on September 16, 2015, 10:02 AM

Oh, I hope things go smoothly. Having just going through my own wedding about six months ago, I completely understand the stress, and mine was a small, informal wedding. But I think people tend to enjoy themselves regardless. My best to you and your daughter!

CoralLevang wrote on September 16, 2015, 10:14 AM

Feisty56 Such a wonderful time for her and for you. I trust all will be beautiful, and that all will behave. emoticon :winking:

Feisty56 wrote on September 16, 2015, 11:08 AM

And being nervous makes us tend to make mistakes where we might not have without the anxiety. I wish you the best.

Feisty56 wrote on September 16, 2015, 11:10 AM

Thank you -- I think it will be a great day. I am yet fairly calm, just doing what I am able to help my daughter cope with her stress.

Feisty56 wrote on September 16, 2015, 11:12 AM

Thank you. Exciting is one word for it...nail-biting is another -- but yes, trying to enjoy every moment of it.

Feisty56 wrote on September 16, 2015, 11:35 AM

What I've been trying to do is figure out where in my outfit I can stuff the tissues I'm going to need because I will be crying tears of happiness.

Feisty56 wrote on September 16, 2015, 11:37 AM

Thank you, Paulie . I think we'll have a bit of a "dress rehearsal" to see how the women will get along at the reception when we have the bridal shower on Saturday. I'm holding good thoughts.

Feisty56 wrote on September 16, 2015, 11:38 AM

You've got that right! : )

Feisty56 wrote on September 16, 2015, 12:09 PM

But this is good drama -- the kind that creates memories to last a lifetime. When it's all said and done, we'll laugh at ourselves in remembrance. : )

Feisty56 wrote on September 16, 2015, 12:10 PM

Thank you. It is a once in a lifetime experience, so I am trying to enjoy even the anxiety. : )

Feisty56 wrote on September 16, 2015, 12:11 PM

A belated congratulations to you and your hubby. : ) The good thing is, we all have a decent sense of humor, so when one or two are stressing out, there's always someone to provide comic relief.

Feisty56 wrote on September 16, 2015, 12:14 PM

Thank you. It is a bonding experience like no other, isn't it? I wouldn't be quite as concerned about guests behaving well if this were going to be a dry reception, but it is not. I will be sober, though, and not allowing anyone's shenanigans to mar the day for the bride and groom.

CoralLevang wrote on September 16, 2015, 12:47 PM

Well, just don't make it open bar. emoticon :winking:

chrisandmark wrote on September 16, 2015, 3:32 PM

How exciting, I hope it all goes well for you emoticon :smile:

msiduri wrote on September 16, 2015, 6:28 PM

Thanks! And yes, humor is essential! In all aspects of life. Ferinstance: I just learned that one of the earliest recorded uses of the common naughty words usually referred to as a "four-word for a sex act" was written in a margin of a translation of Cicero by a monk talking about his abbot. He was, in effect, cussing out the boss.

melody23 wrote on September 17, 2015, 4:56 PM

I am currently picturing you in a beautiful dress with a referee's shirt over the top of it!

I am also the type to nip any brewing trouble in the bud before it starts. Working in a pub for almost a decade will do that for you I guess, downside is that I sense conflict even if its between total strangers and I actually have to stop myself from jumping in to fix it.

Enjoy the hen party (that's what we call bridal showers). 40 people is a lot, I bet you are glad you don't have the responsibility of organising that, I know I would be!

AliCanary wrote on September 17, 2015, 6:10 PM

Wow, 40 people is a lot for a bridal shower! I think I had about 15. There was a theme, because I recently graduated from art school--everyone gave me art supplies! emoticon :grin:

ViperGirl85 wrote on September 17, 2015, 9:57 PM

I hope you have a great time at the bridal shower and wedding. I'm sure your daughter appreciates your help, including nipping any nonsense in the bud.

paigea wrote on September 18, 2015, 8:42 PM

I hope you don't have any need to act as a referee.

lexiconlover wrote on September 30, 2015, 1:27 PM

It's getting pretty close now isn't it!? Bet you all are excited. Hope everything goes well in the upcoming days to the wedding!

MaggieD wrote on October 3, 2015, 10:03 PM

I wish you and your daughter all the best in this special time.