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Acceptance

Every once in awhile, the universe gives you a moment (or two) when you feel strong connection to a person (or two), sometimes those you barely know. They are the people who truly "get you." They find their way into your life, just at the moment you need them most, for the lessons most needed. I have had those moments and people a few times in my life.

I shared in How I Stopped Biting My Nails about one of those people, my friend, Kim. What I learned from her was much more about life than simply being the impetus for my final nail-biting episode.

Today, it has been one of our own Persona Paper people, MegL . I think that she and I are the only two people on here at this time (1300 PDT my time).

As I have been consumed with meeting this goal I set many weeks ago, and being on the brink of reaching it, I have not been able to let it go. I am driven to reach it now, rather than wait another day. It does cause me to be uber-sensitive to all that goes on around me.

I know that I question my own sanity, as others may be already convinced. One can see how my mind works, simply by reading through that which I have written today, if nothing else.

But what MegL did for me is to accept me, as I shared some of my deeper pinings. She "gets me." Some, of which she related to me, was equal to decades of meeting with counselors, and reading of self-help books. She simply accepted me, "as is."

No advice. No warnings. No pom-poms. But simple words as a reminder that there are some in this world who think and do differently.

Thank you, Meg. From the bottom of my heart.

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MegL wrote on August 8, 2015, 5:06 PM

Wow! Thank you very much. I do believe in serendipity and I also love that old Chinese saying, "When the pupil is ready, the teacher will appear". The thing is, the "teacher" does not necessarily need to be a person, it could be an event or process. We can also create our own teachers, by thinking about people we know or have heard of, alive or dead and asking ourselves "what would this person tell us?" Not far to go to the goal now, just a few more little "pushes" and the baby will be here!

cheri wrote on August 9, 2015, 12:54 AM

That was really sweet and something magical that rarely happens between people. God bless you

CoralLevang wrote on August 9, 2015, 11:08 AM

MegL What I also appreciate is that you did not see the "Pathetic and Controlling" post as me being a negative person, as others might.
You know, yesterday was important to me. You being there, as a "coach" to help me get through to that "win," if you will. As I read your comment, here, I see that you likened it to the birthing coach. Yes, you do get me.
Last night, my middle sister called me, and we talked for more than six hours. I guess it was a "sister" day for us all. Again, my heartfelt thanks.

Feisty56 wrote on August 9, 2015, 12:18 PM

It is beyond amazing, isn't it, when this sort of bonding happens -- perhaps even more so because it isn't something we were necessarily seeking or expecting, as in a blooming romantic relationship? It isn't even necessary to be kindred spirits as far as life experiences, age, location, etc. When one is accepting of others rather than judgmental, a whole new world of possibilities are presented to us. I'm going to crucify the Zen quote that I'm paraphrasing, but here goes: Seek not the extraordinary from without, but rather re-think and re-examine that which is and has been.

CoralLevang wrote on August 9, 2015, 12:50 PM

cheri It happens when we least expect it, but yes....and thank you. :)

CoralLevang wrote on August 9, 2015, 12:55 PM

Feisty56 I am learning a lot about aligning myself with people like this, and learning to let go of those who knowingly or unknowingly, as the case may be, pull me down. I was taught that I owe everyone my soul, and have to be friendly to everyone. Define friendly. I am not unkind to anyone, but I have learned how to discern what is good for me or not. I still struggle with letting people say things, without me setting boundaries. But I am learning.

Thank you for sharing this comment. Hugs.

MegL wrote on August 9, 2015, 1:03 PM

Glad it was a good day for you all round and your sister too. emoticon :smile:

Feisty56 wrote on August 9, 2015, 4:12 PM

In the last ten years, I've learned a lot about myself. One of the things I that I had never developed any skills for setting boundaries. As you know, that can make for some downright uncomfortable situations and emotions for ourselves.

It was then that I realized I needed to spend much less time with those people who I think of as "energy suckers." Those are the people who create drama, are full of negativity, who want someone to listen to their ongoing barrages of words and give nothing positive in return. I am still kind to those folks, but my mental health depended on me to make that decision and act on it. I've never regretted doing so.

AliCanary wrote on August 10, 2015, 1:30 PM

She is a wise woman, and she is another person like yourself who brings so much to this community. It's the reason I feel at home here at Persona Paper. Blessings to you both!

Shellyann36 wrote on August 11, 2015, 1:05 AM

Glad you have connected with MegL I hope to find a friend one day that is that wonderful. I am a very hard person to make friends with though.

CoralLevang wrote on August 11, 2015, 4:40 PM

Just one word: Amen!