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Flowers and Dating

A lovely, single red rose
Simple, yet complex.

In the simplicity,
Speaking nothing
But saying much.

I have but one simple question,
Desiring a simple, single-syllabic reply.
Nothing more...nothing more.

Is it your intent that
I fall in love with you?

~by Coral Levang

It has been a rare moment, indeed, that I have received flowers. From a man whose intent it was to court me, I mean.

I have not yet figured out whether or not that courting rituals have changed over the years or if I was the kind of girl that men did not feel it necessary to court. Perhaps, it was a combination of the two. There were a few times in my dating days that I have been surprised by flowers from gentlemen callers, however.

As in Victorian times, when flowers and their colors held exceptionally meaningful messages, I often wonder if thought went into the messages that were given, or if they even matter anymore. Even the most simple of gestures can either make or break a budding relationship.

Now that flowers are readily available, even in the discount grocery stores, I have a bit of advice for those who run-in to purchase tired and wilted flowers from the containers at the end of the check-out counters as an after-thought: If you want to impress this woman with flowers, buy flowers that are not the mums dipped in hot pink, lime green and neon orange dyes. Those give a much different message than cutting a few clusters from your blooming lilac or rose bushes.

And always make sure you peel the price tag with the grocery store's name off the cellophane wrap. If you don't, you might just find she asks you to pick up milk, bread, eggs and butter the next time you get ready to go out on your date.


"A Single Red Rose" was written by author and published originally on 02/06/2009 at Yahoo! Voices [formerly Associated Content]

© 2013 Coral Levang. Republished 2015.

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MegL wrote on June 14, 2015, 4:39 AM

That's a lovely photograph. I think men do not buy flowers as often these days but then I have not been in the courting scene for well over 40 years. Now that women earn nearly as much as men, should women bring men a gift on a date? And if so, what should it be?

scheng1 wrote on June 14, 2015, 4:42 AM

Take it from a business perspective, you would want to marry a man who is a seller of roses during Valentine's Day.

CoralLevang wrote on June 14, 2015, 4:52 AM

According to US Census in 2012, women earned only 77 cents for every dollar that men earned in 2012, the median earnings of American women working full time year-round were $37,791. American men earned a median income of $49,398.

As far as women bringing gifts on a date, I have often done so, usually it is something I have baked. Never on a first date though. I am also the one who has been the one to plan picnic dates, where I supply all the food and wine, so I believe that is equitable, as I often splurge on the menu and the wine. I don't know about what others do, however.

CoralLevang wrote on June 14, 2015, 4:59 AM Interesting article from last year on Forbes about the gender pay gap.

Lovebeingmummy wrote on June 14, 2015, 6:27 AM

I love roses, pretty photo

CoralLevang wrote on June 14, 2015, 6:55 AM

Isn't that the truth! *laughs* If you know of one who is available, let me know! emoticon :winking:

CoralLevang wrote on June 14, 2015, 6:56 AM

It is a pretty photograph. I found it on Pixabay, and thought it was one of the loveliest from which to choose.

CoralLevang wrote on June 14, 2015, 8:21 AM

Be happy that he does this for you. So many would not. There are advantages to a man "not listening" sometimes. emoticon :winking:

DWDavisRSL wrote on June 14, 2015, 8:24 AM

The poem is lovely and you offer men some very good advice about buying flowers to impress a lady.

CoralLevang wrote on June 14, 2015, 8:27 AM

Thanks DWDavisRSL ... now, if I could just find one for me. emoticon :winking:

wolfgirl569 wrote on June 14, 2015, 11:57 AM

I always told men that if they were going to buy me flowers that I wanted plantable ones. That way I can enjoy them for years. I have a rose bush that I moved with us that hubby bought me early in our dating

CoralLevang wrote on June 14, 2015, 12:02 PM

There is a variety of rose that I do not know the name of, but it's a lavender-colored one that is so fragrant. I love it so much.

valmnz wrote on June 14, 2015, 3:15 PM

Beautiful poem. My husband often bought me flowers early in our marriage. He still does, 44 years later, when he senses I'm down. Yes, they are from the supermarket, but are bought and delivered with love, even often with the price tag on. I am a very lucky girl.

CoralLevang wrote on June 14, 2015, 3:22 PM

Thanks, valmnz ! I guess, after 44 years, I would forgive the price tag. He sounds like a keeper. emoticon :winking: