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Unconditional Love

I was watching my favourite show, The Big Bang Theory. In the episode I saw, Sheldon’s god-fearing mother and Leonard’s highly intellectual mother meet for the first time. There was a scene in which Leonard’s mother questions her belief of giving affection or love as a reward to her children -- and then she decides to “shower” affection on her son.

In psychology, there is a concept of “father’s love” or love that has to be “earned”.

What do you think? Does unconditional love exist? Especially in any relationship apart from a parent-child one? Is it possible to love and continue loving someone without getting anything -- even acknowledgement or return of affection? Have you ever done random acts of niceness or kindness without expecting even acknowledgement?

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msiduri wrote on June 11, 2015, 8:00 AM

As much as I love my husband, I do no love him unconditionally. If I were to find out he was, say, a child molester or a some violent or destructive person, I would leave him. If he beat me, I would leave him. It's because I know him well enough that these things are so incredibly unlikely that I went to all the trouble of marrying him. That's not to say that if he became violent because of mentally illness I would leave: that's something beyond his control. At the same time, I do not consciously behave toward him expecting something in return. I treat him kindly because that's how one treats people one cares about. I laugh and joke with him because it's fun to laugh and joke with people.

He's a good man. I got lucky when I met him. I try to show my appreciation of that.

AliCanary wrote on June 11, 2015, 5:28 PM

I have done random acts of kindness, but I do admit I like to feel appreciated, and when I don't feel appreciated, it bugs me. I guess that's kind of selfish, but I hope it's understandable.

MelissaE wrote on June 12, 2015, 7:13 AM

I agree with both writers below. I don't think that I love anyone unconditionally. I like for folks to say thank you.

shaggin83 wrote on June 14, 2015, 10:27 PM

When it comes to my children I know that I love them unconditionally. So yes I do think it does exist but possibly only with my children will I ever feel that for.

iwrite28 wrote on June 15, 2015, 10:07 AM

I agree with all of you. I don't think unconditional love exists except when it come to your own children.

HawgWyld wrote on June 17, 2015, 9:58 AM

I do believe unconditional love does exist. As Christians, we are supposed to express that as a matter of course.

Of course, in reality, providing such love is quite difficult in a world full of people who tend to take advantage of it...

rescuegal wrote on June 26, 2015, 7:51 PM

I do things without expecting anything in return including acknowledgement.

scheng1 wrote on June 27, 2015, 8:38 AM

Perhaps in the animal world, you can find more examples of unconditional love.