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I Won't Be Going To Mum's Tomorrow

I have been keeping in touch with Mum (like I normally do) on the telephone and the other day she told me that it wasn't worth me coming down to Blackpool as Dad is still in the ARC, so my time would be taken up just travelling on the bus (which can take about 40-45 mins each way) every day. She said she would much prefer it if I came down once Dad is back home. This should be anytime after next Tuesday as there is another meeting due at the ARC itself, attended by all of those in charge of his care and subsequent release from the rehabilitation centre.

Mum is due to be visited by people who will install ramps at the front and back doors. Besides the outside there needs to be two on the inside as well as the doorways are not level with the floor, if you see what I mean. Once the ramps are there Dad can move about freely in his wheelchair (something that is still on order) and he is about to buy a motorised one from a lady who has a new one but is selling her old one, for some strange reason. Mum said she wants to find out why she's selling her other one as she's worried there might be something wrong with it i.e. a duff battery. I don't think Dad would be too chuffed if he gets in a motorised wheelchair, only to find it packs in on him halfway down the street!

I shall keep you all posted on developments.

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jiangliu1949 wrote on April 17, 2015, 3:34 AM

If so ,the next couple of days You can save yourself at home for the coming heavy work after your Dad is back home .Your Mum can also have time to prepare what your Dad needs .

peachpurple wrote on April 17, 2015, 7:17 AM

what's wrong with your dad? I hope he feels better, getting bound to wheelchair, he may feel disable, like useless, so try to treat him like normal, don't do special things for him. He will feel bad

Dragonfairy1 wrote on April 17, 2015, 7:32 AM

I hope it all works out and your dad gets home next week x

Janey1966 wrote on April 19, 2015, 4:57 PM

Yes, that's the plan. I now feel guilty about telling Mum I don't want to be there for two weeks at a time, then two weeks here. I want to be there for a week, then come back for, say, two, then another week, depending on how Dad is. I think Mum took it the wrong way but it was her idea not to see them yet anyway. I can't win lol.

Janey1966 wrote on April 19, 2015, 5:00 PM

You probably don't know the history of what's wrong with my Dad so I shall give you the condensed version. He has just had his left leg amputated due to severe claudication (blood flow problems) in it. Added to that he was diagnosed with advanced pancreatic cancer in around June 2014. Currently, he is in a rehabilitation centre (known as the ARC) where he has had some occupational therapy to build his strength up in his upper body and remaining leg. He gets around in a wheelchair donated from the hospital but one is on order for the time he is back at home. A bed and other things have been delivered in the meantime. He is a lot better than he was - say - back in February but the cancer will kill him in the end. We just take it one day at a time, it's the best way of dealing with it.

Janey1966 wrote on April 19, 2015, 5:01 PM

Thanks. I hope he gets back next week as well as the week after that I want to be back in Carlisle voting!

jiangliu1949 wrote on April 20, 2015, 2:05 AM

Maybe your Mum got it wrong .You may clear it up to her face later. It seems that You have to frequently travel to and fro between Blackpool and carlisle from now on.