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Parents and Grandchildren

I was talking to an older friend of mine. She is caring for her parents and yet has grandchildren. She was sharing how she and her husband want to go on a vacation but she has to be home to care for her 93 year old parents. She asked her children if they could each take a turn coming over for dinner and just spending a few ours. She encouraged her kids to bring their children. How many kids are able to spend time with great grandparents! Each of her children told her they were too busy. I was so angry for her. I would give anything to have a night with my grandparents whom have all passed away going on ten years or so. How selfish we have become. Their idea of busy is working and coming home to sit on the couch. None of her kids are that busy that they could not carve out a night to help out their parents and spend time with the grandparents. Such a shame.

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Alexandoy wrote on March 25, 2015, 6:25 PM

My mother in law turned 82 yesterday (March 25). She is bedridden since her stroke 4 years ago. We hired 2 caregivers to attend to her but her grandchildren take part in taking care of her. It's a touching scene to see that so I sometimes take photos.

MegL wrote on March 25, 2015, 6:39 PM

That is very selfish. Grandparents NEED time to recuperate and rest, just like, maybe even more so, than younger people. As a grandparent, I know i get more tired than I used to. Especially when these grandparents are also caring for elderly parents they need a break.

Colibry21 wrote on March 25, 2015, 7:00 PM

My kids are lucky enough to know their great-grandmother. My grandmother is 86 years old. Though they may not remember her, depending on things go, but at least they can say they met her. It's sad that your friend's kids don't seem to want to help. I would gladly help my mom with my grandmother (her mom), if she or any of her siblings asked.

wolfgirl569 wrote on March 25, 2015, 10:33 PM

That is the way it is anymore, My brother and sister are almost non existent when Mom or Dad is sick, I do all the running. Not complaining but it would be nice once in a while for them to take a turn.

trufflehunter wrote on March 25, 2015, 11:29 PM

That's sad. Your friend should be enjoying her days instead of being laden with responsibility.

peachpurple wrote on March 26, 2015, 3:19 AM

you are not alone, many adult kids do not care for grandparents anymore. All they want is the inheritance of money and wealth. They care for themselves. You are not alone.

crowntower wrote on March 26, 2015, 3:30 PM

I guess if we really never had that bond with our family that is the first reaction, but if only the who family were being bonded by love and commitments I think this will never be a problem. We also have our grandparents, and when the whole family are out (exclude us) they bring her with them, and if not there is a family member who will take care of her at home. God bless.