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Twins at School

'Tis the season - and by that, I mean the season of classroom placement for next year.

Growing up, there weren't that many twins around, and now they're everywhere. Or so it seems. Maybe it just seems that way because I have twins, and parents of twins always find each other and bond over that unique experience. I remember the few sets of twins there were in school were always divided into separate classes. Now, it's mostly left up to the parents to decide unless there's an obvious issue.

In general, I like having them be together. It's just easier. Scheduling teacher conferences is easy, just take 2 slots. Writing notes to get them dismissed early? Just one note. One homework assignment to work through (in duplicate). I get twice as much information as other parents, because it comes from two sources. And? One set of germs.

I worry though, that I'm harming them by keeping them together. Not allowing them to develop independently. It's almost silly - they could not be more different. They have separate friends, though they also have shared friends. That's always going to be the case, because there are a limited number of same-age boys to pull from (and girls, obviously, have cooties).

This morning, they joined hands as they walked into school, and my heart swelled a little.

How many friends do you still have from elementary school? Friendships are so fickle at that age ... maybe it's not such a bad thing to keep them together and let them form a stronger bond, because brothers are forever.

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crowntower wrote on March 27, 2015, 11:55 AM

That's okay but I guess separating them must be up to them, because the bond is there and the most important thing is to always tell them that they need to be strong with or without each other so they can get themselves ready, because one day they will take their different paths. God bless.

peachpurple wrote on March 30, 2015, 4:22 AM

my best friend, I met her when I was in primary 4 but she shifted back to singapore and had lost contact. Should had got her phone number