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On Being Critical

I am not perfect. Because I am not so, I have held myself back over the years, believing that I have to be so before I will step out and call myself...


Perhaps that is my downfall. I hesitate to take the leap, because I was taught by a family, church, and a society that there things were black or white, wrong or right, this or that. It is no wonder that I chose to join the military, which in 1973 was not amenable to questioning authority, or thinking outside the system. I have continued to gravitation to situations (and people) that support those values and processes.

Unfortunately, I am someone who questions, thinks, and wants to explore.


Yes, so it seems, because even among those who call themselves "innovators," or our "future leaders," as they enter the world and I am on my way out, I am seen in a way that will prompt others to exclude rather than include.

I see that people, even when they think they are more open-minded, innovative, fair, and inclusive, there is still a standard by which they will judge others.

And yes, even I do it, which drives me crazy to admit. I can be as critical of others, as I see the inequities in someone else's behavior.

The situation that brings this to my attention is that I read three new articles on another site, all by the same writer.

Truth be told, I hold the CEO of Bubblews, Arvind Dixit, to a different standard than that which I might hold another of the same age who would submit something written for review. I am annoyed by his mistakes in spelling, grammar, and lack of cohesiveness.

There is also an underlying distrust, on my part, for anything that he has written. Perhaps, I am not as fair as I would like to believe I am.

But neither is Mr. Dixit as fair or open-minded in how he deals with situations, when accounts are deleted for violating rules for being "unfair" without explanation. There is no discussion or seeking first to understand. I have seen this happen to many I know, though it has not (yet) happened to me.

And yet, life continues for us all.

© Coral Levang, 2015

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valmnz wrote on March 20, 2015, 4:33 PM

I'm not aware of the Arvind spelling errors and such as I don't read his posts any more. On another note, you can call yourself a WRITER if you write. That's what I was once told and now I believe it. Go on, be bold, you have a presence out here in the written woorld. You go ahead and call yourself a writer.

MegL wrote on March 20, 2015, 6:27 PM

Having been in the military, you could call yourself a risk-taker. You don't have to be perfect to take risks,after all, the more imperfect you are, the greater the risk you take. Step out and take that risk, believing that you will be borne up. (Paraphrased from Richard Bach). Perfection doesn't matter then. And who cares about Arvind? Whatever you think of him, good or bad is not going to affect him, it only affects your day. Why allow him to affect your day? So go on, take a risk and you will then be too busy to worry about Arvind!

wolfgirl569 wrote on March 20, 2015, 7:11 PM

You are a writer, just look above at what you wrote. As far as Mr. Dixit I dont believe anything he puts out. Most of it is quoted from somewhere else anyways

MelissaE wrote on March 20, 2015, 8:54 PM

I call my students writers because that's what they are everyday. We are all critics. It is only human nature.

crowntower wrote on March 20, 2015, 9:09 PM

Lol! You might want to remind him or give him advices about his grammars and right spellings. Heheheheh... anyway we can't really change someone, but we can change ourselves, I remember that we can't really tell someone their wrong doings unless we also have corrected our ways... So I guess the best way is to change ourselves first if we want a true change to others.

seren3 wrote on March 20, 2015, 9:17 PM

CoralLevang . Oh my goodness. All I can say is that I'd rather read your material than his, any day!