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What my father taught me about boys

As a teen, I was the ugly girl so, I didn't have any dating experience until 19 years of age, early 20's. Still my dad would throw some random bits of advice at me such as, "Boys don't know what they want". Hmmm.. You think? He also taught me to never ask a boy out. "A decent guy will ask you out", he said. I'm really not sure why that's a thing though. I understand the concept of "The man should pay for the date" because at one time the man was the sole bread winner of the family, therefore the man was more likely to have the money to pay. He also taught me that "The engagement ring is really a trap intended to enslave you to one man for the rest of your life. Don't fall for it!" Of course there were girls at the time going off and getting married way too young. I guess he was trying to make sure I didn't follow their steps. He didn't teach me too much more than that. I Kind of wish he did but, I had to learn on my own. The hard way.


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MommyCharm wrote on March 14, 2015, 11:56 PM

Being my Pop's only daughter, he taught me that men would say and do anything to make you fall for them so I should not be too trusting. He was really picky when it comes to the guys that can court me but I was lucky that he approved of my husband now.

cupkitties wrote on March 15, 2015, 12:02 AM

You are lucky. If more parents teach their kids (girls especially) like that, their future relationship will be much more successful.

peachpurple wrote on March 15, 2015, 2:30 AM

your daddy is teaching her girls to be weary of boys because he was once a boy too

scheng1 wrote on March 15, 2015, 4:24 AM

Perhaps his advice works for his generation and for your country. It does not work everywhere.

arthurchappell wrote on March 17, 2015, 12:51 PM

sounds like he gave you thought provoking advice - not necessarily accurate but he helped to give you shrewder judgement than you may have had otherwise

Mommyjen wrote on March 20, 2015, 4:19 AM

Well cupkitties at least your dad gave you two cents. My father did not even say a single word about boys to me hahahahaha. I got pieces of advice from my mom. But, most of the lessons I learned are from second hand experiences from friends.

Dalane wrote on April 4, 2015, 9:13 PM

Most of us have to learn the hard way. I'm trying to give my 19- year-old advice about young women. But of course, he thinks I don't know what I'm talking about because I'm from the "Stone Age".