Some of you will already know that I am in a relationship with a really lovely man who I met at the end of last year. Things are going well for the most part and I do love him to bits and feel so safe with him which is important for me given the breakdown that I had last year as I am still recovering.
One thing I am really struggling with in the relationship is finding time where we can just be us as a couple, Louise and Brad, as opposed to parents when our children are around. I probably sound like a really horrible person and it isn't that I don't like the time when the kids are around too. I love seeing him with my son and I like his son too. Our kids play well together which is massively important!
The thing is I get just four nights a month where I don't have my son. I work part time but where I work opens seven days a week so some of those days I may well be working. Brad works full time and also works every Saturday morning so late Friday nights with a lie in Saturday morning are off the cards generally. Saturday nights would be ok when I don't have my son but he is home at 10am on the Sunday and Brad has football coaching to go to so again there is little option to have a lazy morning and just enjoy being with one another.
I really feel awful that this is bothering me the way it is because of course we are parents and the kids are really important. We both know this but I am feeling in some ways that we aren't being able to truly embrace the "newness" of our relationship and are settled in to nights sat on the sofa whilst the kids watch a movie or whatever. Married life after just six weeks. It isn't a bad thing to be comfortable at all but when I had my breakdown last year not feeling like "me" and feeling just like "mum" was one of my big issues and I worry that will happen again.
How do you deal with things like this? Do you have any tips for me? I would love to hear them.
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