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Finding the Humor in Life

I look to celebrate all victories, even when there seems to be little to celebrate.

Most often, it is due largely to the fact that I am a "smart-ass" and it becomes part of my "schtick." At other times, I am so frustrated that, if I did not try to find the humor in life, I might as well just quit.

Unfortunately, not all enjoy, like, or appreciate my humor. Nor do others find me endearing when I make some of the arguments I make, especially by trying to lighten up the tone.

My humor can be dry and subtle, deliberate and pointed, campy or silly, or terribly irreverent. However I decide to use my wit or humor, it is purely selfish of me as I choose to use it to offer me some comic relief from the things which I must endure in life. Nothing or no one is exempt.

Many do not "get" my humor, and they may not appreciate it when they are the subject of the humor. I understand, but realize this: If I tease you a bit, or I make fun of a situation that is close to you, it means I am still engaging you. The moment you do not hear anything from me, including wit, banter or sarcasm...this is the moment you might want to be concerned.

Blame it on having Stage IV cancer, if you want to. But once you do, I will start with a whole new line of humor involving death and dying. If I do so, and you are offended, then please get over it.

You see, I have learned that, if you cannot laugh at yourself first, you better not laugh at anyone else. You have to earn that right.

I am glad that I have learned to laugh about the things that used to annoy me. Getting angry about things over which I never had control was a losing battle. Learning to laugh at myself and at the situations (including people) that have been given to me in those lessons has been life-changing.

© 2015 Coral Levang

Note: Material was migrated from Bubblews, and then adapted. Original post was 2014.

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cheri wrote on February 17, 2015, 12:25 AM

Finding something to celebrate in life is a part of being positive and we know how being positive creates the magic in our life.

johnmariow wrote on February 17, 2015, 12:36 AM

Sometimes I would be conversing with someone and then I'd hear the person let out gas. So I'd ask him, "Is that your final comment?"

BarbRad wrote on February 17, 2015, 1:48 AM

I think you are handling your illness marvelously well, and if that humor helps, bring it on.

CoralLevang wrote on February 17, 2015, 2:28 AM

*laughs* I love it. Thank you for sharing this story.

CoralLevang wrote on February 17, 2015, 2:29 AM

BarbRad We must all see the humor. Sometimes, whatever we face is as good as it gets.

valmnz wrote on February 17, 2015, 3:08 AM

I know where you're coming from. When I came close to losing my sight about twleve years ago I coped by using humour. I can still laugh at myself most of the time.

CoralLevang wrote on February 17, 2015, 4:48 AM

Thanks, %valmnz ... I am glad that you did not lose your eye sight.

Ellis wrote on February 17, 2015, 7:53 AM

Life is far too short to take it seriously...there is humour in every is sad that some people cannot see that...

CoralLevang wrote on February 17, 2015, 9:47 AM

I agree, and it has cost me friendships. This is not because I make fun of people, but due to the fact that joking about things that are uncomfortable to others (cancer and death) is too much for them. *shrugs*

GemOfAGirl wrote on February 17, 2015, 11:52 AM

The old adage, "you can laugh or you can cry" is still true. I've often said that "I can laugh at myself, and I laugh often". Unless you're talking about hyena laughter from within the confines of a straitjacket, laughter is always a good thing. It cures all ills. It makes life worth living.

CoralLevang wrote on February 17, 2015, 12:33 PM

Ah, yes! I tell others that by laughing at myself first (and allowing others to make fun at my expense), everything (and every one) else is free rein. emoticon :winking:

crowntower wrote on February 18, 2015, 11:06 AM

I think humour is kinda offensive really when you are attacking someone, even though we know that we are undergoing something, because we all do undergoing our own battles. Maybe we think we have the worst we can still not know what the person is undergoing through. I have handicapped and people always attack me because of that and I don't find it so funny specially when I am being embarrassed. I hope you don't get me wrong, but believe me, everyone of us has a painful part where to others is very visible and to others they are well hidden.
Anyway laughing is the best way to released our stress and I love it that is why I want to read and watch romantic comedy drama. Lol! God bless you a quick ad complete recovery in Jesus name, Amen!

CoralLevang wrote on February 18, 2015, 11:26 AM

crowntower I agree with you that no one should be "attacked" with humor. I'm sorry that you have had to experience that. I have been the brunt of many offensive jokes in certain circles, so I understand your plight. As well, I have worked with people with disabilities, helping them find jobs in industries who cannot see past the challenges. I also understand what you say about visibility and hidden far too well.
What I have learned in my nearly 60 years is that we all are in the war of Life. It isn't pretty, no matter if we try to view it with rose-colored glasses. Everyone goes through their unique battles. Some people use an irreverent humor to get past their own problems. Some are offended by that. Others come to a greater understanding of learning that life is the same for all of us.
I will never go out of my way to embarrass and offend others, though I do understand that some will perceive it as such. These are the things that make human interaction difficult, at times.

CoralLevang wrote on February 18, 2015, 11:27 AM

I totally agree with you! Thank you for sharing, cheri !

crowntower wrote on February 18, 2015, 12:22 PM

Yes I got your point. Thanks, anyway I am one of those with handicapped here who is having a hard time finding a job even if I already have my degree. Discrimination is all over, and I can't pass the exam in I.T. Lol! Everyone is laughing at me, and everyone is bullying me as if I did something to them very nasty, to think that I am just at home writing. I really pray that this year God will bless my writing career and I can get something out of it to help my parents in our daily expenses. I am a burden to my parents now. I just smile at it and I don't take it too much at heart because I know one of these days I God will surely pour out His mercy on me. In 33 years I have live in here, endure everything because I know God is always with me and He will never forsake me and you and all of us.

AliCanary wrote on February 20, 2015, 6:00 PM

I'm very similar--if I don't like someone, I don't bother with them at all. I might fuss at my friends from time time, if they need it ;)

CoralLevang wrote on February 20, 2015, 8:49 PM

Where do you live, and may I ask you the nature of your disability? I used to work in that field.

CoralLevang wrote on February 20, 2015, 8:50 PM

Why is it that I think you and I are rather similar? LOL