Why Do People Put Up With Being Treatd Like Crap
I have worked for many bully bosses. People ask me " Why do you put up with that? ". Many other people have come and gone in the times that I stayed with mean bosses. Not that I always stay, I have quit jobs too when the mean boss just adds that one straw too many.
There are always some people who put up with crap from their bosses, or from other people in their lives. Why? Why do some people put up with crap while others leave? Is it low self-esteem? We are always told that people who put up with crap have low self esteem but I do not think this is the case. While I do not have inflated self esteem it is not rock bottom either.
The reason I put up with crap is because somehow I still benefit.
At my current job I have been treated badly, lied too, taken advantage of, and so forth, but if I leave I am jobless, so how is that to my benefit? I would have to find work else where and I am smart enough to know that is not easy where I live, I would have to drive at least 20 minutes more, to find a job in another community (I live rurally). So for me the fact that I am treated badly is not as bad as if I would have to spend another 40 minutes in the car every day.
I have been bullied as a kid, but for me I would rather have been bullied than have been the bully. I was never mean to anyone and that means more to me than anything else.
So I can endure a mean boss, ya sure it hurts, but I can take it, I am strong and there is a benefit to me to stay. If the cons outweigh the pros I will leave.
What I am saying is that some people stay and put up with crap because events earlier in their life may have made them tougher, and may have also allowed them to realize that some bad things are not as bad as others so as long as there is a benefit its worth it to put up with crap.
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