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Where Has the Demon Child Come From?

I really don't know what is wrong with my son lately. He is having mood swings that change so fast I am surprised he doesn't get whiplash. He won't listen to anything I say or and I have no chance of him doing what I ask of him. He has been like this for nearly two weeks now.

It all started the other week when on the Monday night he skipped a school club just so he could walk to the other side of town with his friend. He lead us to believe that he was still at club and when there was no sign of him when we expected him to be home I phoned him to be told that he was on his way home after someone had ruined his snowman that he had spent the last hour building with his friend. Ok when he came home he admitted that lied but didn't see what was wrong with him doing what he did. Needless to say he wasn't a happy chap when he was told he was grounded that night. He then started with the attitude and kept telling us he was out of line.

For the rest of the week we just got the spoilt brat attitude. Then on the Friday when he didn't arrive home at the time we expected we tried ringing him to find out where he was. His phone was switched off and just get going to the answer machine. After half an hour from when we expected him being home he still wasn't home so we had to go looking for him. We walked the streets for an hour trying to find him only for me, sent home by hubby as I was really struggling to walk, to meet him on his way in. This was at 5pm (he finishes school at 3.15pm) and by the time hubby had got back home it was too late for him to make and eat dinner for him and I was left finishing dinner for me and Alex. He showed no remorse for what he had done and didn't seem to care about what he has caused and what he had put us through. Again the spoilt brat attitude arose with the 'You don't care about me' insults and general ranting. This lead to him being grounded for a week which resulted in more shouting and screaming.

Well his grounding should have been up today but during the past week he has been in such a mood, breaking rules and just generally not listening. I have caught him on his phone at gone 11pm once and 1am another night which has resulted in his phone being confiscated too. After this with the phone, going walkabout with his friends again and a huge argument he had with Dave because of moody spoilt brat attitude he has been grounded for the rest of the month. This means no tv, no phone, no tablet and no xbox till the end of the month and if he doesn't change then it will be extended.

That is Alex in the ph oto . I wish I knew why my son had turned into a demon child these past couple of weeks.

Bye for now!


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Comments

Koalemos wrote on January 25, 2015, 11:45 AM

This does happen and could just as easily dissipate with no notice.

Maplewinter wrote on January 25, 2015, 12:20 PM

I hope it soon passes as this is not him at all. Its just so out of character for him to be like this.

Galeforcewinds wrote on January 25, 2015, 1:08 PM

*hugs* Mine (well my nephew who I raised as my own child) is grown now and living across the country in another state with his fiancee. I went through a time where I did not know the boy child that was living with me. He was as yours is, rude, breaking every rule and I must say I didn't have many, and just being obnoxious. It did pass, although I hope your time is short. Just be there, keep being strong and don't let him change the rules, and he will try. Unless there is something severely wrong, he will come back and realize just how much of a brat he was.

Maplewinter wrote on January 25, 2015, 1:15 PM

Thank you! Its good to know that this is only a phase and that I am not the only parent to go through it. I, like you, have few rules and mainly just expect respect, good manners and to help clean up and don't tend to punish him this much, he usually just gets banned from his things for 24 hours. This is the first time he has been punished for any length of time. I did wonder if it was because he has gone through such a big change going up to high school that he is just fighting to rediscover who he is as he has become a small fish in a big pond so to speak.

Soonerdad3 wrote on January 25, 2015, 1:40 PM

Sorry you are having to go through that, but it sounds like you are handling it best way you can .

Maplewinter wrote on January 25, 2015, 2:25 PM

Its the only way we know how to. His only love is his electronic gadgets so taking them away is the only way we can get him to sit and think about his actions

Soonerdad3 wrote on January 25, 2015, 2:29 PM

Exactly, hopefully it will just be a speed bump for your family and he will get back to his normal behavior.

inertia4 wrote on January 25, 2015, 8:19 PM

Maplewinter How old is your son? Sounds like he is becoming a teenager or has already entered into that stage in his life. He is feeling a sense of freedom. Although it is wrong, he feels that he is old enough to do what he wants. We all go through this stage growing up. My son is now 13 soon to be 14 and thinks he knows it all. But obviously he don't. First and foremost, find out who this friend is. What this other kid is like. Maybe this other kid is having an influence on him. I would start there. And then demand to meet the other kids parents. Now I don't know what the entire situation is, or if you even know this other kid. But his attitude is coming from someplace. And thats what you need to find out. Then you can fix the problem.