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Can People Handle Unhappy Stories?

Today I feel invisible on tsu. It's true I've been mostly here and blogging today, but what I chose to post on tsu today seemed to silence people instead of getting them talking. I got a couple of comments on the short and sweet posts with mostly links or photos. But the post that meant the most to me got almost no response. If anyone read it, I think it must have stunned them into silence because they may have had no idea what to say.

I guess I shouldn't say too much about serious things there. Not even my friend Henry, who always comments, and whose post I mentioned had inspired it, had a comment this time. Or maybe he was busy by the time I posted it and he hasn't seen it yet. I'm posting the same photo here I used with that post. It led into the subject of decisions we make and how they affect others.

My cry for help from geeks with my Wordpress.org blogging problem got also less than deafening responses, but I can understand not everyone has something to say on techy stuff. I guess I should go back to cat photos and sky pictures if I'm gong to be more successful there. That usually works. I can't post all those cute little lamb photos that BNelson posts there because I don't have any cute lambs, but she works hard for hers. All I have are flowers, trees, the sky, and occasionally something odd like a blimp. And my thoughts, which don't seem to be worth much today to anyone but me.

Pictures and content are original and may not be used without permission, B. Radisavljevic, Copyright 2015, All Rights Reserved


Image Credit » I took the photo and added my own words to it.

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arthurchappell wrote on January 20, 2015, 4:50 AM

write about what matters to you and about how you feel - life isn't all candy-floss and kittens - it may just be a slow day there

carolyn wrote on January 20, 2015, 5:00 AM

I tend to get ignored on tsu, I often wonder if it is worth using that site.

Gina145 wrote on January 20, 2015, 5:28 AM

It's difficult to comment without having seen the story, but I found that when times were tough I got some really good comments from my friends on Bubblews. That's one of the things I hate about leaving that site, but many of them are gone anyway, so there's really not much reason to stay there.

MegL wrote on January 20, 2015, 6:38 AM

OK, I will go onto Tsu and see if I can help or comment. I haven't been doing too much anywhere on line at present because I am trying to do more work on my studies, but helping others is a worthwhile distraction! emoticon :grin:

AliCanary wrote on January 20, 2015, 7:25 AM

I think it's easier to leave fluffy comments on fluffy posts than to leave serious comments on serious posts. However, just because there aren't a lot of comments doesn't mean that people didn't read your post and feel touched or enlightened by it. They just might not have had the words to express what they felt.

VinceSummers wrote on January 20, 2015, 7:37 AM

I abandoned the boy named Tsu. I couldn't see where it was worth anything.

Carmelanirel wrote on January 20, 2015, 8:25 AM

I like what arthur said, what what you feel, that is what makes a writer. If you get less or no replies, maybe the right people are not online who don't mind reading and replying to stories like that.

wolfgirl569 wrote on January 20, 2015, 9:19 AM

I dont use tsu because of that. I just never seemed to get any responses on anything I posted

LilyDay wrote on January 20, 2015, 11:15 AM

Tsu really isn't a very good platform for the heavier stuff.

BarbRad wrote on January 20, 2015, 1:28 PM

i think you're right. Some responses have come in over the night, including Henry's. Maybe a lot of people where taking advantage of having a holiday here, or a three-day weekend.

BarbRad wrote on January 20, 2015, 1:40 PM

I think it's worth it. My request for help with Wordpress finally got some responses and someone may loan me an ebook on my Kindle. Some real networking does take place. Perhaps I was just not patient enough. You know how it is. After some writing you put soul into, you are dying to see some responses and when they don't come you feel disappointed. I've earned a couple of dollars for enjoying myself. I really do enjoy meeting new people with common interests and being able to get to know my writing friends in a more daily life sort of way.

BarbRad wrote on January 20, 2015, 1:49 PM

Most of those friends are probably here or on tsu now. I guess many are also at WriteEdge and some of the other new sites, though. The story I told wasn't mine. But it happened in our community and my mother knew the people it happened to. It actually started it out with something else, but I chopped most of it off to shorten it and was planning to use the rest of the material here. It was designed to make people think about the repercussions their own decisions might have in the lives of those whose lives they touch.

BarbRad wrote on January 20, 2015, 1:52 PM

Thanks, Meg. I saw your comment this morning, but I'm still trying to figure out how to apply it to what I wrote. Maybe I'm just not awake yet.

BarbRad wrote on January 20, 2015, 2:02 PM

So far the post has had 26 views, five likes, and three comments. I'm not sure how view is defined or whether it requires that someone actually clicks to see the whole post. It may just mean someone got that far in your feed and saw your post pass through. I average between 40 and 50 views for posts, but they don't all come in the first couple of days. The stats tell you about the last 30 days. Fortunately no one has commented "nice" or "beautiful" on this, and that's good, since the story was tragic. I think you are right that many would not know what to say.

BarbRad wrote on January 20, 2015, 2:05 PM

That's because you didn't find a voice there yet or because you didn't really connect with the kind of people who made you think. I think you have to find your voice and carve out your place on each new social site. It's all about starting conversations. Otherwise it's like going to a party where you don't know anyone and trying to stand with a group until you can find a way to join in.

BarbRad wrote on January 20, 2015, 2:09 PM

Maybe. It would be enough if people just read and thought about it. Or maybe there is so much tragedy in the world that people can't stand anymore. The point was that this tragedy might not have happened if people had made different decisions or had better communication before the decisions were final.

BarbRad wrote on January 20, 2015, 2:14 PM

Did you close your account? I hope not, because you may change your mind later on. There are a set of skills on needs to be successful there in getting responses. Part of it is also finding the right friends. I try to help my tsu children get both if they haven't already developed the skills here or on Bubblews.

BarbRad wrote on January 20, 2015, 2:15 PM

You may be right about that. I guess I should save it and rework it for a better platform.

WordChazer wrote on January 20, 2015, 3:29 PM

I found the same thing, that cannibalised photos and fluff earned more comments than serious posts. Trouble is, I won't share cannibalised photos on principle and I LOATHE fluff. I'm a wordnerdy proofreader and editor, dammit. I want something to READ!

Gina145 wrote on January 20, 2015, 5:31 PM

Sometimes I wonder if I was too hasty in giving up on Tsu. Some of my friends are here and some are at CGP gallery, but at least one seems to have given up on all these sites now, though she did join this one a long time ago.

wolfgirl569 wrote on January 20, 2015, 7:21 PM

no my account is still there. I just never log in

bestwriter wrote on January 20, 2015, 8:53 PM

Just as I do not much care for some posts of others I expect that others too will not like some of my posts and this I have accepted without getting affected. I am happy that I can speak up my mind for the world to hear and it is natural that all will not get affected by what I have to say.

BarbRad wrote on January 21, 2015, 2:24 AM

I like words, too, obviously. But I also like original art and photography, preferably with words that add meaning to art and help me know what's behind it.

BarbRad wrote on January 21, 2015, 2:25 AM

True. We must not assume that everyone will like any given post.

oneoveralpha wrote on January 21, 2015, 1:57 PM

Someday we'll get tired of cute photos of cats and lambs and will want posts about real life, the ups and the downs. Or maybe we'll just start posting depressing cat photos. It could probably go either way.

BarbRad wrote on January 21, 2015, 2:55 PM

I've read many real posts there. And cat photos also go either way. Actually, I think people use the photos like small talk to test the waters before getting more serious. You don't walk into a party where you don't know anyone and start telling strangers about the way your dad died or that you are facing bankruptcy. With strangers you go through a few levels of communication, beginning with small talk so try to find out what they are like. Are they compassionate? Deep? Shallow? Likely to make light of your pain? Likely to say "nice" and move on? Most people would like to test the waters with cute animal photos or nature shots with a comment or two. You actually can learn a lot from the comments people leave on such things.

AsADrivenLeaf wrote on January 22, 2015, 12:21 PM

Challenging articles about one's soul, the present and eternity sometimes skip pass people's attention. I think, everyone will come around to meet with issues from where they are at at the right time, Let's be encouraged! emoticon :smile:

BarbRad wrote on January 23, 2015, 1:22 AM

Yes. A lot may even have to do with the time one posts and if anyone sees it.

shaggin83 wrote on January 23, 2015, 3:06 PM

Sometimes its hard for people to comment on things that they have not been through themselves. They simply just don't know what to say that will be beneficial. I hope by now that you had some comments on it since it was a post that was very dear to you. I'm not on TSU or I would check it out.

BarbRad wrote on January 23, 2015, 9:17 PM

Those who knew the people involved were in shock over this and tended to be judgmental toward one person or the other or both. But it is the children that will bear the scars. Maybe you should join tsu. It reminds me of myLot more than any other site. I'm not sure why, except some of the same people are there. I just tweeted you. Tsu works better for me to promote my articles on various sites than Twitter.