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Is time a healer?

Saying time is a healer is a lie and an illusion in my humble opinion, because time does not heal anything ever. Time just brings new things in our life and those things that yesterday seemed bigger and heavier now seem smaller and easier to bear. That's all time does actually. Healing never comes from the time passing; time can only make things seem less important or serious than yesterday.

However I do believe that healing comes from within and from our choices in life. Healing happens as quickly as we allow it to happen. Healing occurs when we stop being driven by sorrow and when we find the strength to face whatever might have happened in the past and have hurt us at the time.

Healing comes when you choose to stop looking around you, and when you start to look up. Healing happens when you stop whining and asking yourself "Why me?" and when you start saying "I'll move on, no matter what!"

So, is time a healer? I guess not. Healing comes always from within, so it's up to us.

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Hollyhocks100 wrote on January 13, 2015, 6:47 AM

You are so right, I can think of another untrue saying as well, and reading this brought it to mind and will give me a subject to write about. Thank you emoticon :smile:

phoenixmaid wrote on January 13, 2015, 6:53 AM

I quite agree with you and won't say time heals, i will say life does though. I don't think we do start to heal until we throw ourselves back into life and start creating new memories to dull the painful ones.

houserulesradio wrote on January 13, 2015, 7:10 AM

Moving beyond the event heals. It is in the past. Done, dead, and gone. Moving forward is the best healer.

stbrians wrote on January 13, 2015, 10:30 AM

TIME is in fact a strong healer . It heals all sores

Romeo wrote on January 13, 2015, 11:10 AM

Healing occurs naturally when we forgive ourselves and the others. Time just reflects that change.

caretakerray wrote on January 13, 2015, 11:56 AM

Hear Hear! Time may not be a healer, but it eases the blow!

JohnRoberts wrote on January 13, 2015, 12:19 PM

I guess people confuse time healing with time distances from events. Time never heals the death of a loved one just dulls the pain. Actually time is depressing because each second that passes brings us closer to death.

grandma20121 wrote on January 13, 2015, 12:46 PM

you know i have heard the saying about time healing all my life but i never really thought about the way you have worded it but i guess it makes alot of sense, if we do not choose to move on and get better for ourselves than time will do nothing unless we use the time wisely enough to help ourselves.

McIntire wrote on January 13, 2015, 5:32 PM

No and I have no idea what nut-case ever started that old adage. Maybe someone who never lost anyone deeply loved and always missed.

Renda wrote on January 13, 2015, 8:49 PM

I have come to realize a long time ago that the saying "time heals all wounds" is not true. In my opinion, I think time only allows us to learn how to deal with our pain, hurt, and losses.

happynutritionist wrote on January 14, 2015, 2:59 PM

Time heals individual concerns, like missing someone, but yes, there is always something new to come along, that is life.

angelaterese13 wrote on January 16, 2015, 8:01 AM

Time isn't necessarily the healer, but it takes time to reach the realization that we must go on and the pain becomes another part of us that eventually fuses with the new joys of life.

arthurchappell wrote on January 16, 2015, 9:58 AM

I never understood the expression - If I was injured I'd want medical treatment right away not being left there for a month on the assumption that I'd heal through time itself - work places also don't respect long term sickness benefits

livingnow wrote on January 16, 2015, 11:04 AM

there are of course wounds that require immediate attention. That expression is used by a lot of people to relate more to the spiritual wounds.

mrsmerlin wrote on January 17, 2015, 4:45 PM

I think it is our actions that help the healing along but I don't think the first few steps are voluntary. with close personal grief for instance it can be too painful to do anything and that is when it is friends and family that help us to heal, they lead us to the road we have to walk

Gina145 wrote on January 18, 2015, 5:34 PM

I'm really not sure how I feel about that. I think in some ways time can make emotional pain easier to bear even if it never goes away entirely. And when it comes to minor physical wounds, the body is often capable of healing itself, so time definitely makes things better.

mustchoice wrote on January 21, 2015, 5:08 AM

You are very much correct me to i don't think time is healer

RonElFran wrote on February 15, 2015, 9:15 AM

I think the intent of the saying is that, just as with physical wounds, our emotional wounds will heal over time if we don't keep going back and picking at the scab.

Tiger_Armando_Jose wrote on February 19, 2015, 11:57 AM

It sure helps!

LeaPea2417 wrote on December 17, 2015, 3:42 PM

Yes, healing comes from within, you write that well. I hope you come back to this site to write so I can interact with your posts and get to know you better.