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I Am Beyond Mad

I am so mad!

As some of you know I co-direct an animal rescue. Well, I have been emailing a guy who was interested in one of our dogs for over a week - even assuring him that he had first chance at this dog. Today was supposed to be a meet and greet (the foster knew about this for days - almost from the beginning) and had wanted to go to the meet and greet with me, because she didn't trust my judgement.

Well, the guy emailed me this morning telling me he was getting off work early today, so I told him I would contact the foster and see if she could do the meet and greet earlier. Here is the text I got back from the foster: "Actually, we've decided to be foster failures and keep him."

I was SO mad when she sent me that I immediately told the director of the rescue. Unfortunately there was nothing we could do because the dog was in her name and not ours. That won't be happening again.

So because I had been the one in contact with this guy the whole time, it was only fair that I have to deliver this bad news. I sent him a text (he was at work) explaining what had happened, apologized, and offered to help him find another dog similar to the one he wanted from us. He was of course upset and mentioned the countless emails we'd gone through.

I feel awful for him, even though it's the foster that should feel bad. But I'm sure she doesn't - she doesn't care. And because she kept this dog she will no longer be able to foster for us - so we're also losing TWO fosters because of this whole deal (her mom also fostered for us, same house).

AND she might not be paying us his adoption fee, we can't make her, so we're out $150 as well.

I am so mad and I probably won't be dealing with much of the communication end of things, at least not for a long time. This girl turned ME into a liar, and it infuriates me.


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SoundNFury wrote on January 11, 2015, 6:52 PM

Wow, that really sucks. Sorry you had to deal with this person. Some people are just thoughtless and don't think of how they put others out because of their actions.

melody23 wrote on January 11, 2015, 7:00 PM

Oh no that's awful. That's actually the reason I didn't take in a foster bunny when I was asked to last year, I know I couldn't bare to give the wee guy back. plus I already have a rabbit and if he had bonded to the foster bun I would have felt awful separating them. I am actually in conversation right now by email about adopting another bun though, don't know what the other half will say about it. we have discussed it but haven't actually agreed on it yet but I couldn't resist this poor wee guy who desperately needs a new home asap. I guess I will find out soon because he will be home any minute now from work, if he agrees we should be able to pick our new wee guy up tomorrow or the next day.

Feisty56 wrote on January 11, 2015, 7:03 PM

The positive result is that one dog likely has a loving forever home. I know that doesn't take away your feelings of frustration, nor the disappointment of the potential new owner. It doesn't give you the $150 adoption fee either. After your initial frustration, maybe you'll be able to view this as a learning experience to prevent a repeat in the future.

Louemham wrote on January 11, 2015, 7:04 PM

What a terrible thing to do, why do people foster dogs if they plan on keeping them forever? Why not pay the fee and adopt instead? I hope you find another dog for the guy who wanted one. Some people are not very nice

Began1988 wrote on January 11, 2015, 7:16 PM

Congrats on the new bunny. I had no issue fostering because it was EASY for me to give a dog to someone if I knew it was going to a good home (and knowing that I can save another life when current dog goes to a home). The fact that we had multiple people interested in this dog, and the foster decided to keep him and thus stop fostering (and saving lives) really pisses me off! -_-

Began1988 wrote on January 11, 2015, 7:19 PM

That actually isn't a positive for me because this guy would have given this dog a great home, I could tell by his application alone before even meeting him. And we had 2 other people interested in this dog if he didn't work out. So really it's all negative, because now we'll be saving fewer animals now because we lost fosters. It's not really a learning experience for me because it wouldn't have happened if I'd been the one in control. But now the rescue won't allow fosters to adopt dogs for us now.

WordChazer wrote on January 16, 2015, 7:45 PM

Some people! If you are going to be a foster you have to resign yourself to losing fosters you love to forever homes. But on the upside, being a foster could allow you to make LOTS of new friends from the people who take your fosters, if they're inclined to stay in touch.