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Gaming as a Couple

There's a preconceived notion floating around out there that video games are only played and enjoyed by guys. Guys in relationships that spend too much time gaming and not enough time with their significant other. Some people might look at my boyfriend and point him out as a prime example. When he comes home from work, he likes to get into comfy clothes and then make pixels explode. A lot. But I am always first priority, even if he can't always hear me over the explosions.

Video games have actually been an avenue that we could explore together as a couple. I've enjoyed video games throughout my life. I've had my share of thumb callouses from too many hours of button mashing just like he has. The major difference is that we each prefer different genres of games. We've had to make compromises and stretch out of our individual comfort zones to try games that neither of us has played so that we could do something together.

I'd like to say that from personal experience it's a great feeling to be able to take down a tricky boss then high five the person that helped you through it. Or, if it's a particularly rough day, you can legally beat the crap out of each other. Just make sure that no one's feelings get hurt as you pummel each others faces into the dirt. Video games are a stress relief, co-op or solo. And when that stress is minimized, there's more time and energy to focus on couply-things. In fact, according to a study by Harris Interactive (Read more here ), women gamers have sex more frequently than women who are non-gamers. Most of these lady gamers are in happy, committed relationships. I guess that puts me in the majority.

William and I spend a lot of time together and some of that just happens to include video games. In a small way, I like to think that playing video games together improves our communication skills and our ability to figure out things together which is what a relationship is all about.

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Kat- wrote on January 4, 2015, 7:12 PM

I think it's cool you play games as a couple, I've known a few couples that played games together but they seem to be few are far between. I myself, play games, my husband does not, his version of games would be Facebook games or maybe Sim City.

amyk49 wrote on January 4, 2015, 7:28 PM

My boyfriend and I love to play games together, or at least we did when visiting a friend who had an awesome game system. We currently don't have one, but it's our our list. I love gaming as a couple!

BarbRad wrote on January 4, 2015, 8:06 PM

That's a new perspective for me. Neither I nor my husband is into video games. But he loves live games of chess or Risk or Hearts. I'm not much for games since we don't have kids around anymore.

MelissaE wrote on January 4, 2015, 8:23 PM

Thank you for an interesting post. I'm not a gamer; I was teen when the first Atari came out. I do remember having one and all of the kids used to come to my house to play. Gaming is like reading or writing or social media, you can't let it alienate you. Have a blessed evening.

Soreiya wrote on January 4, 2015, 8:27 PM

I always wanted to find a gamer guy, but it seems unlikely that it'll happen. I'm already pretty old now anyway.

GayleStorm wrote on January 4, 2015, 10:22 PM

Before we started dating, I probably would've said that my favorite game was The Sims. Now there's just too many to choose from!

GayleStorm wrote on January 4, 2015, 10:24 PM

We're PC gamers but still had a similar problem. I was trying to games on a laptop that wasn't built for them. Over the course of our relationship, we've both gotten new computers so we can continue to play the most recent games together.

GayleStorm wrote on January 4, 2015, 10:26 PM

It's a little unconventional but it's still time that we're spending together.

GayleStorm wrote on January 4, 2015, 10:29 PM

Surprisingly enough, I've played my share of Atari. My grandparents had one in their basement for the longest time; it's probably still there in all honesty. There's a game that we're really interested in now that reminds me of an Atari game vaguely. But of course I can't remember the name of it.

GayleStorm wrote on January 4, 2015, 10:31 PM

Don't give up yet. Gamers come in all sorts of packaging. I'm sure your gamer guy's out there somewhere saying that there's no mature lady gamers to be found.

Soreiya wrote on January 5, 2015, 12:30 AM

I may be older (I'm 32), but being mature... I'm not so sure. hahahhaa Thanks for the encouragement however.

SoundNFury wrote on January 5, 2015, 3:54 AM

I think it's great to be able to spend time together doing something you both love. I have a friend, and he and his wife are the same way. Definitely better than not spending time together because of something.

phoenixmaid wrote on January 5, 2015, 5:53 AM

My late husband and I used to love playing games with each other, although he was into racing games and I was into RPG's but we always found games we could play together. Gaming is now a family past time even though hubby isn't here to join in with us. I play minecraft with the girls 8 & 9 and the teen likes to blow things up the only game i don't play with the teen is COD I just can't get into that one.

BarbRad wrote on January 5, 2015, 1:03 PM

Hey, if you both enjoy it, that's good.

Ruby3881 wrote on January 6, 2015, 3:30 AM

For a gamer guy, there's nothing sexier than a woman who games! I was actually surprised that the old stereotype is still around, since a lot more women enjoy console games these days. But it seems that MamaOzzy3881 is often met with surprise when people discover she's a gamer. And since she had her introduction to D&D-style RPGs this summer, she really turns heads...

BodieMor wrote on January 8, 2015, 2:59 AM

It's great that you play games as a couple. And oddly romantic...