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Scars are visible memories

I was putting some makeup on today when I saw the little scar on my left cheek. That scar represents a battle. Not with someone else but with a super infection called MRSA which I contracted in the same place twice and have NO idea how. Very few antibiotics kill the infection which can spread all over and really cause damage and even kill you. I won the battle twice but I will never know how I contracted it as it is usually an infection that people in hospitals, jails, and locker rooms get, none of which I was near at the time.

I have a scar on my abdomen, vertical and about an inch long. That represents my gallbladder and appendix removal. It also represents a miscarriage I had because of the gallstones. It is a part of my life history. All scars have stories to tell. Some as boring as "I cut my finger cutting up vegetables" while others are simply fascinating.

But all scars mark a certain time in our lives. Most evoke memories of some sort. We shouldn't be so quick to cover them up or get rid of them. They are like visible memories.

Just as we are all unique, so are the scars on our bodies. My husband has a lot of them from a series of abdominal operations that almost killed him and a car accident just this past summer that nearly claimed him as well. He's here and has the scars to show for fighting those battles and winning. He doesn't care who sees them and doesn't mind answering questions if people ask. They're uniquely his. Just as my scars are mine. I'm not embarrassed of any of my scars. They are a part of me and, if a person likes me, they will simply accept my "visible memories" as well.

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PattyTherre wrote on January 2, 2015, 2:22 AM

I like that quote. I don't think anyone gets through life without a scar or two. My son has one between his eyebrows where he fell while having a seizure when he was 4 years old. That scar represents an epic battle that he won. He says it reminds him everyday that he nearly died as a kid and was cured by a miracle diet.

Louemham wrote on January 2, 2015, 2:27 AM

This post is extremely relatable to me, I have a large scar on my abdomen from an operation when I was a child, to remove a growth on my skin. I have smaller scars too, usually from personal injury as I am clumsy person LOL

celticeagle wrote on January 2, 2015, 2:43 AM

You are so right. I have gallbladder and hysterectomy scars. Also two in the same exact place on my eyebrow where I was in an accident twice. Scars are interesting memories.

carmela wrote on January 2, 2015, 3:10 AM

i have a long scar on my chin that evokes feelings of hatred and retaliation everytime i touch it or everytime i see it when i look at myself in the mirror :( it took me a long time to forgive the man who gave me this scar and i remain thankful for the chance given to me to openly forgive him at his deathbed :( yes i completely agree with you that scars are visible memories.

Oceanblue wrote on January 2, 2015, 3:12 AM

Hi, I certainly have my share of small scares reminders of different events. Although some events certainly don't need a scare to remind you of the event. Have a great day.

bestwriter wrote on January 2, 2015, 3:34 AM

You are truly giving vip treatment to scars. Not a bad idea. They do have stories to tell.

Jaffy wrote on January 2, 2015, 3:57 AM

You are right every scar has a story behind it. I have a scar on my forehead (It represents that I had Chickenpox when I was in 6th grade). I still remembers those miserable days.

BarbRad wrote on January 2, 2015, 4:30 AM

That is a beautiful perspective on what some might see as imperfections. Many people place way too much emphasis on physical appearance, and that is especially true in the media. It's character, however, that's important.

Angeles wrote on January 2, 2015, 4:50 AM

I agree with you. When my husband was 1 year and some months old, he burned his right leg with the iron! He told me the scar was small, but as he was growing, the scar also did, and now the scar is about 20 cm long! I met him with that scar, and for me it is now invisible! He didn't wanted to show it when he was young, but now, it is ok with him.

teamshepherd wrote on January 2, 2015, 5:23 AM

I like how you think. I have a few scars and I don't mind them. So many of my friends flip themselves upside down to hide their scars and I don't understand it... I mean I would if they were huge and horrendous maybe.

Madcanman wrote on January 2, 2015, 5:45 AM

My most prominent one is an angled line across my chin from several decades ago, which will always remind me of the stupidity of driving under the influence. Though I'm told I was almost fried by a downed power line across my wreck I'm thankful I'm alive today. I'm ashamed to also admit others I have in not-as-noticeable places are self-inflicted. We'll leave those alone for now so as not to darken any spirits here.

MakeMoneyOnline wrote on January 2, 2015, 5:46 AM

That's tough. I've had scars on my face since a very young age. I had four big birthmarks on my left cheek. As they were growing, the doctors were afraid they might be malignant and I had an operation to remove them. The operation left two small and two relatively big scars (four altogether) on my left cheek. This really defined my childhood. I became self conscious, developed extremely low self esteem and became very shy and until relatively recently literally thought I was one of the ugliest people alive. I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 20! And this was a major contributor. Fortunately I was able to put everything behind me and now don't think that any more (or I should say for about 15 years now). But still, this little thing robbed me of some experiences during childhood and young adolescence. Now when I look at the pictures from the past I only realize how good I really looked. If I only realized it then :) The thing with scars is that the one who has them perceives them very differently than others. It always looks much, much worse when you see the scars on you in the mirror than when you look at them on someone else.

ConstantDementia wrote on January 2, 2015, 6:24 AM

i quite a few scars all over my body and each a story of its own. From childhood memories to adulthood goofs. There is one on my leg that has faded considerably over the years. it is a reminder of my 1st ironing experience

catsholiday wrote on January 2, 2015, 11:41 AM

I only have a couple of scars too - they are reminders of times past and part of our personal history

Telynor wrote on January 5, 2015, 4:53 AM

Oh my goodness, you were very lucky to escape any further complications from MRSA. That one can kill you. I liked your statement about scars and memories. That is so true; I have mine from an accident and the surgery I went through during cancer treatment. Then there are the mental ones that I try very hard to stay away from.