Too Much Pride Is Not Good
Well I am happy to say the baby girl's operation was a success . But the expenses will be too high for the family to handle. The husband came home and I talked to him. He said his brother said they should come back here to stay in my house. I said it was fine with me but there will be some rules. I also tried to advise him to sell his TV because they can always buy again next time. The health of their baby is more important.
I am not that rich or well off but can help in little ways. I also told him to get rid of the tablet or sell it. I said if I saw his wife playing with it I will take it and throw it away.
His wife is too hard-headed , one trying to keep up with the Joneses and pretending she can afford. She is living way above their means. Her husband is working as a driver for a furniture store. Her husband is the younger brother of my helper. I had sent them to school, the husband and the wife were my scholars before (the wife is supposed to be a distant relative , same last name) She had a twin sister who was better than her. So after they graduated from high school they disappeared and later we found out they are living together. They have 3 daughter 4 -2 and 6 mos.It is the 6 mos that had an operation.
Now after telling him the rules I needed to be followed, he sort of got mad. Well if he doesn't want to conform to my rules which were just that they keep their area clean and to help around, I am not going to insist. Imagine living here rent free with free electricity water and even food.
The pride of some people will get them no where. I am doing this because his brother, the husband of my helper has been with me for 13 years, they have only 2 daughters and I treat them like family . I even gave them money and helped look for money they can borrow.
Well if they want to go home for Christmas they must swallow their pride.
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Comments
scheng1 wrote on December 17, 2014, 11:50 PM
His wife should go to work, and let her sister takes care of her kids. She will know the value of money.
luisga814 wrote on December 18, 2014, 1:46 AM
Actually, I do have also pride. I cannot let my wife to go to work because I do believe that husband like me is the one who will serve as the breadwinner of the family that will provides all :)
paperdaisyflower7 wrote on December 18, 2014, 6:19 AM
yours is a rent pride theirs is different
LoudMan wrote on December 18, 2014, 6:40 AM
This sounds like a terribly-sticky situation and, the kids have no say in it. Sad.
luisga814 wrote on December 18, 2014, 9:38 PM
Yes, you are right paperdaisyflower7 . And I am very glad that you said that positively for me. Maybe, my wife can work, if I cannot work anymore.
paigea wrote on December 19, 2014, 10:44 AM
I am glad the operation went well. I hope that family figure out how to take care of themselves.
Katherina201 wrote on December 23, 2014, 10:21 PM
It is very important to have some rules and an understanding of what is expected on both sides or misunderstanding and hard feelings are sure to follow. I think things may have gotten too hard to deal with for this young couple and they are unable to think clearly. They don't seem to know how close they are to being homeless.