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What Makes an Active Mother?

I am a Mother of four grown up children, the youngest being seventeen. No one tells us how to be a good Mother; we follow our instincts and hope that we get it right. Most of the time I think I did get it right, but there have been times along the way, when I have wondered if I could have done any better. Given difficult circumstances sometimes I don't think I could.

There are bad Mothers and good Mothers. We all probably know a bad Mother. I have seen many in the decades I have been parenting. I have heard of Mothers that seemed to ignore their children almost, and preferred to sit on the PC or play video games all day - yes, that really happens. These kids are left to their own devices often and must feel terribly unloved and unimportant.

A good Mum makes time for her children. Quality time between Mums and their kids is vital, and they need to feel involved on a day to day basis. It's okay parking them off to some class or other, but what a Mother does with her kids is more important. I used to play board games with my kids, and even make games up. We had many laughs over the years and they are all competitive so games were very applicable. We sang together! Yes, a good old family sing song as all my kids have a love of music. We went on walks to the woods, and we collected fir cones near Christmas, to paint or decorate. I made a point of doing something with my kids often.

How much do you participate actively with your kids? What do you do to make quality together time?

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Ingrid wrote on December 3, 2014, 12:20 PM

I agree with you. A good mother does something with her children. My children and I watched clouds and jumped in leaf piles. We still talk about the shape of clouds.

Kasman wrote on December 3, 2014, 4:37 PM

Being fully interactive with children is a full-time occupation. I think most parents are pretty good at the job (at least the ones I know). Those who fail to do a good job usually have some problem (drugs, maybe) which stops them being as involved with their children as they might wish.

bestwriter wrote on December 3, 2014, 5:54 PM

Mothers think that be it a success or failure it has everything to do with their upbringing of their children. I do not agree with that. Children bring with them whatever that takes to mold them and yes to some extent parents do play a role but they cannot take credit or otherwise for what their children finally turn out to be.

scheng1 wrote on December 6, 2014, 7:45 AM

Sometimes there is a difference in perspective of what a good mother is. A child may want his mother to stop fussing, and his mother cannot help fussing over him.

Debbie wrote on December 6, 2014, 7:06 PM

You sound like a lovely mum. I play board games with my boys, sometimes we cook or bake. Other times they tell me to go away, lol.