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Relationships And Technology

I am not going to go into huge detail in this article about my relationship with my boyfriend but I am going to talk about relationships and technology and how it can ruin relationships. Myself I have always been more of a hermit staying home, alone and doing my own thing. I do go out of course for drives, walks sometimes, to see my family and a couple friends but mostly at the end of the day I am always home. Being home also means being around personal entertainment. So for me my computer is a huge part of my life and entertainment and I am not a fool and will admit I probably spend to much time online. No I do spend to much time online.

How does this effect relationships? Well for one if you get addicted to an online game or whatever your reason is you may start seeing your family and friends less or even your spouse. I am common law married by the law here in Canada to my boyfriend so I am probably going to call him my spouse a lot even though we are not legally married.

My spouse works outside the home so we only see each other some of his days off and sometimes when he is off work. Like most people though he is tired, frustrated and wants to be left alone. This is where technology comes in. Instead of us spending quality time together we end up on our computers or phones the whole night. He has more friends than I do so he is on his phone more texting and snap chatting. Does it get annoying? Yes. Do I get jealous? Yes. And no I do not want to be that way.

He also gets frustrated with me if it is his day off and he has to wait for me to finish my online work. Unfortunately with working at home I make a bit less per hour now and need to work a lot harder to be able to pay my bills. Which I do not mind but because of that and various risk involved I need to be strict and work.

I won't even go into detail about the other issues technology causes relationships but it is true. Especially when it comes to be people who like to be sneaky and a bit unfaithful by joining dating apps or adult orientated apps.

We are working on it though. I don't work much on weekends and he has all of next weekend off so I am hoping we can sit our phones aside and not be on the computers as long for we can actually spend time together like a normal couple. Sorry if this post offends anyone but it is true in a lot of ways certain things that have happened with apps and technology cause a lot of problems for people in and not in relationships.


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Comments

Feisty56 wrote on December 1, 2014, 10:14 AM

I can't see why anyone would be offended with the thoughts you've shared here. It's true that technology adds positive things to our lives, but it does come at a cost. I hope the two of you will be able to compromise and find a solution that works for each of you -- and for you two mutually.

LeaPea2417 wrote on December 1, 2014, 12:38 PM

I am exactly in your same situation. Yes, I spend a lot of time online and I feel a little guilty by it, but I am trying to earn online. Also, when my husband gets home from work, he has worked hard, so he deserves some computer time. We do make a conscious effort to spend quality time with each other on his days off.

WorkAtHomeGal wrote on December 8, 2014, 11:41 AM

You are right it adds plenty of positives but for people either with poor time management or who just don't care it can also be a frustration. I am sure we will make this work overtime. Time shall tell.

WorkAtHomeGal wrote on December 8, 2014, 11:43 AM

Same for me, I am trying to earn so it can run up time online very quickly! Me and my boyfriend have our own computers and I have no issue with him gaming or being on his phone but us time is important to. This weekend went well, we spent a healthy amount of time together.

WordChazer wrote on December 28, 2014, 2:19 PM

My busband and I are both online much of the time so we line our laptops up and simply go at it side by side, typing furiously. Drives my parents nuts when we see them but it's paid work so it has to be done (they don't need to know it's fractions of a penny here , there or anywhere else, the fact is it's paid and that's all that matters.)