4th grade, intelligence and anxiety.
I am sleepy right now, but it is the pleasant I could nap type of sleepy rather than my usual exhaustion. It's nice. This morning I took my son to an appointment with a councilor. It went very well. She gets it.
My son is smart, really smart. (That isn't just mama bias talking.) He also has some anxiety issues and a teacher that pushes every button he has. The teacher thinks his anxiety is all in his head and wants him to be "A lion not a turtle." The Councilor said because my son is so brilliant it is difficult for him to communicate in a way the teacher can understand when he gets stressed out.
Him shutting down and backing away from the situation is his way of stepping back and regrouping. Her not allowing him to have that moment to regroup is just making matters worse. The new communication plan is to use hand signals. Something simple that the teacher can see and register.
When my kid gets to the limit of his endurance he gives her the secret back off signal and she lets him have a moment somewhere quiet to get his barrings and regain his equilibrium. I believe we will eventually still have to switch teachers but we are going to give this plan a go anyway. At least we can say we tried everything.