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Why Can't We All Get Along?

What if, just for today, I:

Suspend judgment of any other person's ideas, beliefs and customs

Don't see skin color because I am too busy looking into your eyes and listening to your message

Value and learn from your experiences

Can have empathy and concern for people I will never meet in places far away from me

Recognize your efforts to be the best person you can be

Understand that we all have more things in common than we do differences

Don't equate success in life with the size of your bank account but the size of your heart

And, what if I did this today, tomorrow and every day thereafter?

I've grown tired of acknowledging that basic human nature is what forces a wedge between us as people. Animals live by their instincts and basic nature. As humans, we have the ability to control our thoughts, attitudes and actions. We don't have to succumb to the basest of our instincts. Those are excuses and not reasons.

What if today, we joined together to live what we believe will bring people closer together, to look to solutions together? What if we agree: No more excuses?

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Ellis wrote on November 3, 2014, 11:29 AM

Then that would take you to a higher plane that most humans aren't capable of... :(

Feisty56 wrote on November 3, 2014, 11:41 AM

Oh Ellis, do you really think so -- that most humans aren't capable of controlling the basic natures that keep war and famine such a reality? I'd like to believe we all have the capability, but not necessarily the motivation to do so.

tinamarie wrote on November 3, 2014, 11:43 AM

I think we are capable of doing this, but, it's takes a lot for a person to see beyond their culture, lifestyle and up bringing in most cases. I would like to be there "when" this happens. Great post and had to share it out.

AngelSharum wrote on November 3, 2014, 11:51 AM

I try to do this every day. I am human and don't always succeed, but I do try.

Kasman wrote on November 3, 2014, 12:43 PM

Sorry, but some people just rub me up the wrong way - often without even trying. There are some (fortunately only a very few) I will never get along with.

Scorpie wrote on November 3, 2014, 2:04 PM

The day will certainly come be it by evolution or necessity.

Feisty56 wrote on November 3, 2014, 2:14 PM

tinamarie Sorry, the truncated comments feature is not currently working, so had to reply this way.
Thank you for the share. I don't think it's easy to make these kinds of changes, but I know that these are the goals, along with some others, that I work on a bit each day. Mahatma Gandhi said it so well with, "Be the change you want to see in the world." I'm not about trying to change anyone else, only the one person for whom I'm responsible -- me.

MegL wrote on November 3, 2014, 2:15 PM

It may take a huge external threat to do that. Not because we can't, but to shock us into seeing what is truly important.

Feisty56 wrote on November 3, 2014, 2:18 PM

I don't think it's necessary to like every person or even to agree with everyone. The way I see it in my own mind is that I agree that everyone has the right to be who and what they are, even if it is something I don't understand or agree with -- as long as whatever it is doesn't harm anyone else or restrict my innate freedoms.

Feisty56 wrote on November 3, 2014, 2:19 PM

I'd like to think that the fact that we try is important.

Feisty56 wrote on November 3, 2014, 2:21 PM

I'm not suggesting that each of us needs to embrace every human being as a friend or even as an acquaintance. My intention here is to suggest we put away arbitrary differences on other people as a whole.

Feisty56 wrote on November 3, 2014, 2:22 PM

I think the human race has made some steps in the right directions, but there is still so much ignorance and hate to overcome.

Feisty56 wrote on November 3, 2014, 2:27 PM

You may be right on this, MegL . In the past, common tragedies have brought people together who had no other bonds. It seems a shame that it would require something that threatens our existence before these changes would be made on a large scale, but it might well be so.

LoudMan wrote on November 3, 2014, 3:21 PM

And here I thought that's what I am for. LOL!

alexdg1 wrote on November 3, 2014, 3:43 PM

I think that. sadly, humans are hard-wired somehow with fear of The Other, no matter what "The Other" might be. Whether it is a primitive survival instinct (like territoriality) or if it is something that developed throughout our long history on Earth, I am not sure. Anthropological studies and group psychology are not areas I'm well versed in, but I think part of our prejudices and fears are instinctive, while others are learned. I, for one, am baffled about why, in the 21st Century, Americans are still racially divided. That boggles my mind.

WordChazer wrote on November 3, 2014, 5:20 PM

I'll wake up soon and realise that your post was all a pleasant dream.

After a 12 hour work day I'm not up to much, sorry. I have been out of the house for 15 hours today and I still have to write a 400 word article and pack some eBay items tonight.

paperdaisyflower7 wrote on November 3, 2014, 6:28 PM

wish that would happen but I guess it's t hard for some

bestwriter wrote on November 3, 2014, 6:36 PM

We all have choices but it is not understood why we do not go for that which can ensure peace around us.

idyll wrote on November 3, 2014, 11:18 PM

well said. I prefer equality and empathy to have into all of our mind. we should appreciate the similarity between us and accept the differences between us, then we all can get along.

BarbRad wrote on November 4, 2014, 1:45 AM

I doubt if your dream will come true because some people feel they will benefit by people who are divided. Most people want to live a peaceful live without bothering or being bothered by others. But there are always a few that feel a need to stir up trouble, and one of the ways they do this is to get people to focus on their differences. Some of these people are in positions of power and influence and use the divisions to gain more power for themselves. Others just seem to need to feel superior to others and use whatever they can find to tear others down. It's a shame.

LarrySells wrote on November 4, 2014, 2:17 AM

I have hope for human beings. Some how I see humans coming together, loving and respecting one another. It might take some kind a major tragedy or a major miracle to cause that to occur.

Feisty56 wrote on November 4, 2014, 8:33 AM

You are a hoot!

Feisty56 wrote on November 4, 2014, 8:38 AM

Where once America represented progress, it has let us all down. People are making money from keeping us divided among ourselves in arbitrary groups -- color, religion, sex, ancestry. All of this division helps to prevent we average folks from coming together on the much bigger issues in the nation and the world. Were we to ever dismiss these arbitrary lines and come together as one -- imagine how frightening it would be for those who hold the purse strings.

Feisty56 wrote on November 4, 2014, 8:39 AM

I have no idea how you keep putting one foot in front of another, day after day. You must have a strong drive. I admire that, but still hope that there is soon some break for you.

WordChazer wrote on November 4, 2014, 12:49 PM

Well the 400 word article was written but has yet to be delivered (overdue!) The eBay items keep selling themselves so I have more to pack up tonight. My husband hauled me out of the office at 4pm today so I have half a chance of getting a proper evening tonight.

BarbRad wrote on November 17, 2014, 9:15 PM

And there's the rub. Certain cultures and ways of thinking will harm others, and often see it as a purpose in life. We belong to a culture that wants peace and harmony among people, but a good part of the world belong to cultures that want to wipe out everyone who disagrees with them. How can these two world views coexist in peace?

BarbRad wrote on November 17, 2014, 9:19 PM

I hate conflict. I will live with it when necessary, but I'd always rather live in peace, agreeing to disagree with those who have a different view than mine. There comes a time, though, when peace is the coward's way out. Do we peacefully stand by and watch people be destroyed because we don't want to interfere or rock a boat? There is real evil in the world and it will try to destroy what is good. Sometimes we have to take an uncomfortable stand to try to protect others who are too weak to defend themselves.