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Why Do People Let Themselves Go?

I have a family relative that is 48 years old and weighs about 400 pounds. She is only 4'10" so her weight shows even more on her short frame.

I don't get it, her husband is tall and very slender with a good built and very nice looking man of 45. Why would any young person or even an older person let themselves get to that point?

Health issues perhaps? From what I understand there are none. Eating disorder? Perhaps and that is my own explanation that I can come up with for her weight. Doesn't she realize that weight that much affects her heart and her lungs? She pants when she breaths even walking a few steps.

What do you all make of this? I can't figure it out for the life of me.

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LeaPea2417 wrote on October 28, 2014, 11:42 AM

It may take a serious health issue for her to realize she needs to start eating better and less so she can lose weight. I pray for her.

SLGarcia wrote on October 28, 2014, 12:39 PM

To get that big she definitely has issues.

inertia4 wrote on October 28, 2014, 2:02 PM

Patricia I wonder that myself. I try and lose weight and stay healthy. My girlfriend just keeps on eating, day and night. She was once a model. And now, well, she let herself go. It's like she gave up or something. And I don't get it. And the best part is that she keeps saying for me to help her lose weight. I find it next to impossible. She wants my help but will not take it. And then goes and eats all kinds of junk. Strange really.

melody23 wrote on October 28, 2014, 2:28 PM

I am not quite as heavy as that, but I am considerably overweight and would give anything to lose it. I do have food issues and do the best I can to eat as well as I can, I go to the gym at least twice a week and do lots of exercise at home including a physiotherapy plan for my back, I have a job where I am running around on my feet for 12 hours a day and until a few weeks ago I didn't have a car so walked everywhere. I cannot lose weight, no matter what I try. I have tried all these fancy supplements, raspberry keytones and the like and nothing works. Its just not easy for some people I guess.

Bellatricks wrote on October 28, 2014, 3:59 PM

When I was married I put on 100 pounds. I've lost 70 since the divorce. I "let myself go" because there was a lot of emotional abuse in that relationship. I really didn't even realize how big I got until I went to the doctor's in August 2013.

imphavok wrote on October 28, 2014, 5:58 PM

She may have an eating disorder, but honestly I think she probably feels secure in her marriage and simply doesn't feel she needs to take care of her appearance anymore. Perhaps she is unhappy and eats to console herself. I think she needs to see a Doctor as that much weight is extremely unhealthy.

LoudMan wrote on October 28, 2014, 9:19 PM

These situations have so many variables involved, it's all-but-impossible for those of us on the sidelines to really know.

Patricia wrote on November 1, 2014, 10:42 AM

Oh I know those variables. Family secrets are really never kept. Thanks for leaving a comment.

Patricia wrote on November 1, 2014, 10:44 AM

Thanks for sharing your viewpoint. She has seen a doctor and has health issues but continues to eat. She can't breathe and has an irregular heart beat.

Patricia wrote on November 1, 2014, 10:46 AM

She is a verbal abuser and the family distanced themselves from her. Her husband gives her whatever she wants and lives in a nice big house with several cars. I'd call them well off financially. Thanks for sharing your story.

Patricia wrote on November 1, 2014, 10:47 AM

this relative started to go to the gym but stopped and all she does now is sit on the couch. The family gave up. She worked but quit that. At least you are trying and that is a good thing, she isn't. thanks for leaving a comment.

Patricia wrote on November 1, 2014, 10:49 AM

inertia4 this relative was 115 pounds at one tine and she turned out to be a nasty self centered person. Thanks for sharing your weight story.

Patricia wrote on November 1, 2014, 10:49 AM

She has health issues. Her life is pretty darn good as far as that goes. Thanks for leaving a comment.

Patricia wrote on November 1, 2014, 10:50 AM

She is a closet eater and tells everyone she isn't. She refuses help and dropped out of a weight loss program. Thanks for commenting.

Patricia wrote on November 1, 2014, 10:51 AM

LeaPea2417 she has major breathing and heart problems and refuses to listen to anyone. She does need prayers for sure. thank you.

Patricia wrote on November 1, 2014, 1:30 PM

Incase I forgot to add I got the above icon from Microsoft clipart

inertia4 wrote on November 2, 2014, 7:12 PM

Patricia Sometimes when people gain weight they become bitter. That might be what happened. I have seen it before.