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Mother of the Bride: 357 Days and Counting

My daughter and her long-time beau and now fiance are planning their wedding for Sweetest Day, October 17, 2015. The couple will soon be celebrating their 10-year anniversary of being a couple, so this is not an overnight decision by any means.

Large weddings are not the general rule in my family. I can't recall the last time I attended a wedding, so as mother-of-the-bride, I am winging this. Thankfully the couple have chosen to mix traditional with non-traditional in both the ceremony and the reception, so there will be plenty of room for learning the etiquette and determining where to break from the usual.

They've chosen a theme that is meaningful to them, if a bit unusual -- a John Deere theme. So green and yellow will be the basic colors, but will be downplayed some with the use of burlap and raffia. It's their day, so we'll do it their way.

Lots and lots of work ahead, but also much togetherness and bonding with my daughter and her bridal party. If I'm nervous as mother-of-the-bride, I can only guess how anxious my daughter must feel.

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MegL wrote on October 24, 2014, 12:36 PM

Gosh, I never had to do this, as my daughter and her husband arranged their OWN wedding. We just had to turn up! emoticon :smile:

LeaPea2417 wrote on October 24, 2014, 1:10 PM

Best wishes to the happy couple, may they have many good years together.

Feisty56 wrote on October 24, 2014, 2:59 PM

It's a brand new experience for me, too. My daughter has a bridal party, but since everyone has full time employment, school and the like, I'm helping with whatever details she asks of me.

Feisty56 wrote on October 24, 2014, 3:01 PM

Thank you : )

Feisty56 wrote on October 24, 2014, 3:02 PM

Thanks. I don't know how much my daughter will actually need me to do, but I await her instructions. : )

SLGarcia wrote on October 24, 2014, 4:14 PM

Interesting theme! My daughter had a large wedding but it was in Wisconsin and I was living in Oregon at the time. Therefore, I did not help at all until I arrived there a week before the wedding. My daughter and son-in-law pretty much did everything themselves (along with paying for it). It was a beautiful wedding. I found it kind of fun to be the "Mother of the Bride".

Isabella wrote on October 24, 2014, 4:31 PM

I'm so happy for you, congratulations! I love weddings, i'm Italian and boy do we go crazy on weddings!!! You'll be great...don't forget to share!

Feisty56 wrote on October 24, 2014, 6:50 PM

Lol, yes, one of "their" songs has long been, "She Thinks My Tractor's Sexy!" They're a couple of salt of the earth people and he comes from a long farming tradition. It's a nice theme for them. I wouldn't be a bit surprised if the groom rides in on a piece of John Deere equipment. : )

Feisty56 wrote on October 24, 2014, 6:51 PM

I may have to turn to you sometimes to rev me up and keep me on track then. : )

Ellis wrote on October 24, 2014, 8:38 PM

I'm sure you'll do an amazing job!

bestwriter wrote on October 24, 2014, 8:49 PM

I am so happy your daughter is involving you which is so unlike with the present generation. Have a blast. Planning is great fun.

momathome wrote on October 24, 2014, 9:15 PM

I dread when my daughter gets to be that age, but I'm hopefully that she will take after her mother. My wedding was so simple/small that it cost me less than $75 including the food, cake and paying the pastor!

Feisty56 wrote on October 24, 2014, 9:19 PM

I appreciate your vote of confidence. If my daughter and future son-in-law are happy with it, it will be a success. : )

Feisty56 wrote on October 24, 2014, 9:21 PM

I just have to be careful to try not to "drive from the backseat." I let her explain what it is she wants, then we brainstorm on how best to make it happen.

Feisty56 wrote on October 24, 2014, 9:23 PM

Now that was an inexpensive wedding! This will be a small, private ceremony with a fairly large reception (by our standards anyway), so it will cost more than $75, but way, way less than what is said to be the average cost of a wedding these days: $30,000!

bestwriter wrote on October 24, 2014, 9:27 PM

I was kind of a wedding planner for the family - all my sisters and brothers well not all - put me in charge for their kids. I introduced the theme concept. Even some from my husband's family and a few friends took my help. It is such fun really

momathome wrote on October 24, 2014, 10:37 PM

Feisty56 I can't even imagine spending that much for a wedding! Wouldn't the bride and groom be much better off with a cheaper wedding and using the balance for a down payment on a home? That would be much more practical to me!

AliCanary wrote on October 24, 2014, 11:46 PM

Hmm, so I take it the First Dance will be to "She Thinks My Tractor's Sexy"? ;)

maxeen wrote on October 25, 2014, 8:10 AM

My son was living abroad when he got married,my other son Is single and so is my daughter. I wish them well..

Jadecat777 wrote on October 25, 2014, 8:43 AM

Congratulations and may their wedding be blessed and filled with prosperity. Its definitely going to be a day that you will never forget

WordChazer wrote on October 25, 2014, 9:26 AM

Hey! They'll share an anniversary with my husband and me! We were married on that date in 2007. We had a very small wedding (12 people including us) as I only have three relatives but he has dozens, most of whom expected to be invited, which he wasn't happy to do. The fallout is still falling from that decision, but he's cool with it.

Congratulations to your daughter and future son-in-law. Are you nervous yet, ?

OldRoadsOnceTraveled wrote on October 25, 2014, 11:46 AM

I wouldn't have thought about a John Deere theme, but I bet there are quite a few cute things they could come up with. Are they planning an outdoor wedding? A farm would be perfect. Can't wait to see the pictures.

OldRoadsOnceTraveled wrote on October 25, 2014, 11:51 AM

I had a friend who got married at a horse farm. She used a lot of burlap and raffia in decorating, put candles in Mason jars, served BBQ, etc. They got married in front of the barn and the guests sat on bales of hay.

Kasman wrote on October 25, 2014, 12:04 PM

Does the bride intend to turn up riding on a tractor? BTW Squidoo used to have a 'countdown' module which counted down the days until a certain date right on a lens!

Isabella wrote on October 25, 2014, 10:16 PM

My pleasure...i'll have your back friend

BarbRad wrote on October 26, 2014, 10:07 PM

My daughter used to put on my wedding dress when she wanted to have something appropriate for special dressy occasions. By the time she grew into it, I had grown out of it. It was street length on purpose do that I could use it for more that one day. Unfortunately, my daughter did not life long enough to have a wedding, and neither did my son. So I never got to be mother of the bride or the groom. Only aunt of the groom. I'm sure you'll do a great job of helping your daughter pull the wedding together into a memorable occasion.