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My Father is Dying....

I recently wrote an article about my family coming together to celebrate my father’s 90th birthday. I spoke of the joy of seeing family that I’d not seen in several years and the fun we’d had recounting the “same old family stories”. I am truly glad that I had the pleasure and the opportunity to be at that party because it may be the last one for him.

My brother sent me two audio files of the updated prognosis of my father’s recent trip to the doctors. The report came back that he was slipping away.

An infection in his feet caused by his immobility is gaining strength in his legs. The immobility creates an insufficient blood flow which in turn complicates the body’s natural ability to heal. Consequently, he would need surgery to effectively combat the infection.

The arteries to his heart are opened less than 10% because of congestive heart failure. His robust appetite waned years ago and although he has excellent home care and is surrounded by those who love and respect him, he has lost too much weight.

The result is that he will be going into a home hospice program to endure until the end. I am so glad that I went to that party…..

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BarbRad wrote on September 23, 2014, 3:20 AM

I'm sorry that your father's days are coming to an end, but it is a blessing he is able to die at home, surrounded by love.

LoudMan wrote on September 23, 2014, 7:00 AM

I'm sorry for your loss. It might not seem like it right now but, when you come through this onto the other side,you'll be a better person for it.

LeaPea2417 wrote on September 23, 2014, 11:40 AM

I am very sad to read that but glad you got to see him in a relative state of health that one last time. It reminds me of that last time I saw my Uncle alive. It was Christmas 2004 right before he died two days after the New Year of 2005. I am so glad I got to see him and talk to him. His death was so unexpected!

Feisty56 wrote on September 23, 2014, 12:10 PM

I am very sorry to hear of your father's prognosis and what it means, both to him and all those who care about him. He sounds like he has been in very capable and loving hands; hospice will augment that.

GemOfAGirl wrote on September 23, 2014, 10:06 PM

I'm so sorry to read that you're going through this journey right now. It's a tough road - it's hard to watch as our parents struggle with their health issues, and as hard as it is for them, they're still worrying about their children the entire time. He's probably fondly remembering your presence at his party right now.

bestwriter wrote on September 23, 2014, 10:22 PM

It is not everyone that gets so much love and care. Your father is truly blessed.

LeslieAdrienne wrote on September 23, 2014, 11:29 PM

Thank you, BarbRad , LoudMan , LeaPea2417 , Feisty56 , GemOfAGirl and, bestwriter . It is wonderful to have people who barely know me take the time to show sincere compassion and kindness toward me... I don't take it lightly. I truly thank you and do indeed pray the blessings of God in your life.... again, Thank you..... Just to let you know, Dad is still lucid and now has the proper medications which are helping him with the pain from the infection. We will love on him and laugh with him as long as we can, and, we are comforted that when he leaves here, he will be at peace and, we will see him again.

GemOfAGirl wrote on September 23, 2014, 11:34 PM

I've been where you are right now. I lost my own father to cancer almost ten years ago. It was such a privilege to be with him in his last days, and as a fellow daughter, I know you feel the same way about the time you got to spend with your dad. Please keep us posted on how things are going.

LeslieAdrienne wrote on September 24, 2014, 12:01 AM

Thank you GemOfAGirl ... I certainly will do that...

Ellis wrote on September 24, 2014, 12:22 PM

Very sorry to hear about your dad.

paigea wrote on October 5, 2014, 7:45 PM

I am so sorry for your father's decline. How fortunate the family had that party all together for him

OldRoadsOnceTraveled wrote on October 23, 2014, 4:29 PM

I'm sorry to hear about this. My father died suddenly, but we went through the hospice experience with my mother. Both ways are difficult, but we were comforted by knowing where they were going and that we would see them again. Make the most of the time you have left with him. You won't regret it.

LeaPea2417 wrote on December 27, 2015, 11:07 PM

I am sorry you Father is dying. I pray for comfort to you and your whole family. I also hope you will come back here to write.