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Overprotective Parenting?

What is your parenting style?

I am not a parent and I don't plan to be for at least a few more years. I would say that I grew up in a somewhat sheltered household. My parents raised my 2 younger sisters and I in a Christian home. If it matters, I consider myself agnostic nowadays. I don't want to say anything bad about my parents, but I can say that they were quite (and still are) overprotective, maybe to the point that I grew up to be a bit naive about many things.

When I started attending public school after being homeschooled for many years, it was a huge culture shock. I was bullied all throughout middle school and was left with a huge mental imprint - I became withdrawn and more shy. I did not know how things "worked" in the world. I started questioning the faith my parents raised us to follow.

I was not allowed to do much during high school. I didn't get my driver license until after I graduated, and I couldn't really hang out with anyone, even during the summer. I was a typical teenager in that I felt like my parents were the absolute worst, but I didn't talk back (much) and never dared to sneak out at night. I think overall I was a pretty decent kid compared to my peers back then, haha.

I think my parents realized that they had been a bit too overprotective when I ran away from home back in 2010. A lot of stuff changed. Fast forward: I moved back in 2012 due to various circumstances. I see how their parenting style has gone through some changes. They are still very religious and my sisters are still Christian, but I see that they are more lenient on certain things. Sometimes I think it's unfair that I had to go through all the crap while my sisters have it easier, but at the same time I am glad that my parents were open-minded enough to change some things about their parenting style.

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MegL wrote on September 16, 2014, 3:15 PM

I think that your story shows that your parents love you very much, enough to try to protect you and enough to be willing to change when they found that it was too stifling. You may find that many other teenagers can relate to what you say, even if they were not brought up in a religious home and even if they were not home schooled.

LoudMan wrote on September 16, 2014, 3:29 PM

Of course it's unfair. Everything is unfair. Life is not fair. Not much, anyway.

Pogonotomy wrote on September 16, 2014, 3:33 PM

That is very true, Meg. I'm a little older now so I am starting to appreciate some of the ways that my parents raised us.

Pogonotomy wrote on September 16, 2014, 3:33 PM

Here, here. -raises glass-

LisaSteinmetz wrote on September 17, 2014, 6:51 PM

It seems like you were a learning experience for your parents and a huge help to your sisters. By your running away they had to take a look at what they were doing. You brought about those changes and opened their eyes. Great job! :)

Ruby3881 wrote on October 2, 2014, 4:25 AM

I had a similar experience to yours, in that my parents were much more liberal with my younger sister. I resented it a bit when I was younger, but even then I understood that it's natural for parents to "loosen up" with younger children.